Hi everyone. SubmissiveGirl was so cool to offer her thoughts. Here is the private conversation we just had. She was cool about sharing it: Any thoughts about these points we bring up?
Its a choice only you can make. You can hide it and hope she never finds out. I understand not wanting to hurt her. Sometimes it's hard to figure out what to do when there is a good chance we may hurt the one we love.
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jerkforfun
Thanks! I think it's as you said from the beginning. Either STOP or come clean. Come clean leads to horrible marriage, I think, at least for a while. STOP is unpleasant at times, but I can get a grip.
Then there is the lying: I could tell her I have been fantasizing about it, but that i hadn't acted on it.. Then I could have her for support/advice, but the problem is I still think she'd be very hurt and plagued by the thought "is he fantasizing about someone else while we have sex?" or in any situation "is he thinking about dicks or about me?" I just don't see the honest and open thing working for her. For me it'd be a relief. For her, I believe it'd be hell. I love her so much, I'd rather just suppress it all to deep secrecy.
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submissivegirl83
hmmm, honestly I think it would hurt me if my partner told me he was doing this. And I'm all for guys being bi in whatever shape or form. It would be that you are hiding it.
I don't have an answer for you. Maybe some of the guys can help you. I'm sorry!
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jerkforfun
Even another guy would be cool, I think. Just no sex/attachment
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submissivegirl83
NO its ok.
OK what if it was another man instead of a woman she was playing with?
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jerkforfun
I can see the downside, too. But they are sooo cool looking/sexy. Anyway, I reverse the situation in my mind, and I would be sooo happy about it! She'd have some chicks to frig with once in a while -- great! A group could be fun with the right boundaries, too. But that just would never ever happen. Because of this, I feel fairness dictates that I show my dick to no one and jerk alone....or have great sex with her (which i just got last night! Why isn't that enough?!?) Anyway, now i am just venting. Sorry.
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submissivegirl83
Freakin large natural breasts are a nightmare
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Glad you like my pics though.
Listen some people might come on and be assholes to you. Obviously this is bothering you. ATLEAST you are just jerking off. Just put yourself in her shoes. Flip it around and see how you would feel.
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jerkforfun
By the way, your pics are cool. It must be wild to have such large breasts to swing around and play with!!
I wish i had a sure way to kill the urges to jo w/ other dudes.
Anyway, this is what i responed in the thread:
Thanks, submissivegirl83. I think you're right about that. I don't see a way to tell her at all. This is why in the past, I have just come to the conclusion: "THAT'S IT" and "no more." Right now the urge is strong, that's all, and I admit being on LPSG is not helping, but making me more horny to jerk it with another dude ! As far as disease goes, I don't go there....no contact that could lead to STD transmission is cool with me. But it's the honesty thing that kills me and brings the guilt on. One day I feel i will have to tell her, but it just won't work now. I know she can't handle it.