I’ve been talking to this guy recently on Snapchat. We discussed meeting up to have sex. I haven’t penetrated someone in over a year. Usually when it gets to that point, to penetrate, I get in my head and my dick goes limp. He expects to get fucked for 20-25 minutes. Strictly penetration; doggystyle preferably. I’m just hoping to be able to stick it in. When I first started having sex with guys I did bottom. A lot. But there were times where I topped and really enjoyed myself. I’ve even felt proud of my performance. As life went on, I’ve just been over sex but I’m really smitten with this one. I want to be able to enjoy the moment and satisfy him. But the doubt in the back of my head is eating me alive. I need some help. Tips and tricks are welcome.
I get the same anxiety.
So I take a 100mg Viagra.
It gets rid of all my worries about going soft.
I get hard without it but not "reliably"
So I take a 100mg Viagra.
It gets rid of all my worries about going soft.
I get hard without it but not "reliably"
elklindoxxx
Superior Member
If you are having trouble maintaining an erection then you should seek medical treatment....
I relate to this you, OP, because I've always been self-conscious of my smaller-than-average penis with a super tight foreskin that can't be drawn back, so I've defaulted to being a bottom/side with most of my sexual partners, and I also have a powerful inner dialogue that makes it hard (ha) to be present in the moment.
It also doesn't help that I'm on a class of antidepressants (SNRI) where one of the documented side-effects is erectile dysfunction...
With all this, I have found a simple 25mg pill of Viagra has done wonders for me (I agree that 100mg is far too much: you don't want to run into low blood pressure problems, so start with one, 25mg pill and work your way up to 50mg if needed), and using CBT techniques to ground yourself in the moment with your partner is also helpful (taking that deep breath, appreciaiting the sight, sound, touch, smell and taste of the different parts of your partner that turn you on the most)... It also helps me to have my partner tell me what aspects of me turn him on the most - the validation definitely helps with my self-conscious negative speak.
Setting the mood for topping is important too: if not the bedroom, then about the shower? Or the couch? The kitchen counter? Or outdoors? Is there a fantasy or fetish that you want to indulge yourselves in?
It also doesn't help that I'm on a class of antidepressants (SNRI) where one of the documented side-effects is erectile dysfunction...
With all this, I have found a simple 25mg pill of Viagra has done wonders for me (I agree that 100mg is far too much: you don't want to run into low blood pressure problems, so start with one, 25mg pill and work your way up to 50mg if needed), and using CBT techniques to ground yourself in the moment with your partner is also helpful (taking that deep breath, appreciaiting the sight, sound, touch, smell and taste of the different parts of your partner that turn you on the most)... It also helps me to have my partner tell me what aspects of me turn him on the most - the validation definitely helps with my self-conscious negative speak.
Setting the mood for topping is important too: if not the bedroom, then about the shower? Or the couch? The kitchen counter? Or outdoors? Is there a fantasy or fetish that you want to indulge yourselves in?
lustfulvirgo:
things that get me going:a butt plug in my own hole helps keep me fired up when im fking someone. also playing with someone's hole with my fingers gets me really hard... i get to where i cant wait to stuff it in there!
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