I've had to clarify my sexual preferences several times and some people argue with me on what I am or feel. Which is silly, only I know what I like and don't like.
So, should we re-label what guys like me ...like? IE: I don't want to date guys - zero interest. I date, hold hands, kiss, fuck and fall in love with females. Period. With guys, I want to get naked, do some oral, massage, body contact, jack and basically just 'get off' to each other's 'maleness' (oh, and no anal). That's it.
In the past, I've said I'm 'bi', but that doesn't seem to actually fit who I am apparently. Any others out there like me? Or ideas on what the category would be?
Buddy,
Sounds as though you're writing about me, with the exception that my
attachment to other guys might be stronger.
I couldn't identify myself for a long time BECAUSE I WAS TAUGHT TO
IDENTIFY MYSELF in terms (and through concepts) that throughout
history- namely our European History- simply did not exist-
those terms being STRAIGHT, GAY OR BI.
Few (ordinary) people realize the profound extent Victorian England
and second millenium Christianity (though I am practicing) had on
our Western Civilization in terms of sex and masculinity.
Literally, a man's sexuality, which is as varied as their are stars in
the sky, was rewritten and imposed over suceeding generations,
but the evolution of this phenomenon deserves a thread of its own so
I'll defer to just assuring you that YOU FALL INTO THE CATEGORY OF
THE VAST MAJORITY OF MEN,
YOU ARE SEXUAL, PERIOD, and excercising normal masculine instinct
through the love and appreciation of women and the occasional
(somewhat tribal) sexual contact with your own gender.
Freud called this behavior among "straight" young males GENDER
CONSOLIDATION and men who, to state it planly, fuck around
with other dudes, masculine as they can be, become better lovers
to women.
Anyone who tells you differently is not only full of crap but stands
in philosophical defiance to everything that has ever been written
about the psychosexual development of males and the sexual
habits of our warrior ancestors of whom the Romans and Greeks are
most notable.
In short,
they were all fucking around with each other and HAD NO LABELS
BESIDES THAT OF... WARRIOR.
Thanks for reading, and thanks for your post.