Sizequeen Issue

[LongWalk]

I really enjoyed reading this thread, and wanted to take a moment to wish sizequeenNY good luck in her search, and to offer my own insight.

First, you mentioned that you're on Fet because of your submissive leanings. From my past membership on that site, I think you could possibly have some luck there in finding someone to fulfill both your needs. It's a such an open environment to discussions of all types, and, honestly, most well-endowed Doms will probably have put that fact out there already. LOL! I met a previous sub / girlfriend there, and it worked out fairly well for a while. The bigger problem that I foresee with you there would be in finding a Dom that is truly interested in being monogamous. I was, and, it seemed, I was one of the few.

Of course, I also met another gal through Craigslist, when I was just looking for sex, and what could have been just a one night fantasy with a big cock, for her, turned into a long-term Dom / sub relationship.

My wife, on the other hand, I met through friends, and we had instant chemistry and just clicked. It was one of those cases of, "we can smell our own". LOL!

What I'm saying is, you have to be open about what you're looking for, don't settle, and don't limit yourself on where you look... but you have to be smart, and willing to move on if it isn't right.

Again, best of luck!!

 

[paigexox]

Great thread, really. I can totally empathize with what has been said, and feel exactly the same way about the dilemma.

It's a really unfortunate situation to find yourself in, and from experience, I can attest to the frustration -- in some ways I think this is why I have become the way I am sexually. I sometimes try and divorce sex from emotional fulfillment within a relationship, which rarely ever works in the long run, but does protect emotions along the way.


I guess the difficult pursuit can be viewed as more than worth it though. :smile:
There is always something to be said for going after what *you* desire, and not settling for any less!

 

[Pitbull]

... I am a sizequeen... The issue is, I am looking for one person to get to know and spend time with. How do I approach this while being true to what I am looking for within the adult community(have tried with other men, does not work out well)

Assuming that you're okay with a man who is at least a 7 1/2" about 6% of men will have penis that fits your criteria.

So about 8.3 million men in America will be compatible with you in that area. In your state, NY, there will be about 570,000 men. That's the population of a medium sized city. If you're really interested in getting a man with a large cock, you should be able to find one. Now, whether or not this guy will meet all your other criteria, is another question entirely.

Bad News!
570,000 men with at least a 7& 1/2 inch penis size in New York State

25% are under 18 or over 65. (-142,500)
5% are gay (- 28,500)
40% are Married (-228,000)
10% are below poverty level (- 57,000)
20% suffer from mental illness (-114,000)

TOTAL (-570,000)

No one available.

Maybe if you are lucky a suitable man from out of state will have the good sense to send you a PM :wink:

 

[sizequeenNY]

I'd like to add a couple of things to this discussion from a man's pov.

I would not be upfront about your need, which btw I respect completely. The reason is sinmply that you plant the idea that you are primarily interested, sex wise, in a big cock and that this is a sine qua non for an ongoing reltionship. If I am looking for an ongoing relationship, I don't want it to be reliant upon my cock. Of course I want my cock to be appreciated, but I don't want the confusion as to whether it is me or the cock. I appreciate that it is the whole package, but the stipulation throws doubt on this.

I am far more comfortable if a relationship develops to that point where we want to have sex and the cock is a pleasant surprise. This though is subject to size compatability. I am experienced enough to know that one woman's big is another woman's average, and that in the latter case a woman is getting from 8 what another woman gets from 6. You might find, if you are the latter that a big guy will find you less satisfying than the woman who is happy with 6.

Then there's the girth issue.

Someone's endowment is one element of what I am looking for, not the basis. You could say the same about an ass man, breast man. I did settle once, my ex was five in and for five years, I settled for less than what I wanted sexually. Just as I need my partner to be intelligent, I need him to be able to satisfy my sexual needs, just like I need to satisfy him.

 

[sizequeenNY]

But the point is that SQNY doesn't want to sample unless there is proof of a minimum endowment. That's her business, but it does mean that she rejects men that she otherwise finds attractive and will sow seeds of discomfort in the minds of serious men who may meet her "requirements".

Several size queens,to one level or another, have acknowledged in this thread the problem the size need brings in reducing the pool of available men. It's a tough one, but there you are, you discount 90% of men and what are you left with? Many that you wouldn't fuck if your life depended upon it, and many who would reject you anyway.

I would rather not have sex with every guy I go on a date with. I think that is more respectable than sampling everyone I meet. Besides not wanting to be promiscuous, I am in NYC and while people should always practice safe sex, people should be even more cautious in large cities where people have higher numbers, raising their risk factor

 

[sizequeenNY]

Bad News!
570,000 men with at least a 7& 1/2 inch penis size in New York State

25% are under 18 or over 65. (-142,500)
5% are gay (- 28,500)
40% are Married (-228,000)
10% are below poverty level (- 57,000)
20% suffer from mental illness (-114,000)

TOTAL (-570,000)

No one available.

Maybe if you are lucky a suitable man from out of state will have the good sense to send you a PM :wink:

I don't mind men from out of state :wink:

 

[marriedasian]

i say play the part and be true to urself. if you prefer big cocks then go for big cocks and try to make it apparent right away so you don't get entangled in emotions. you do limit your choices but at least you will get what you want. it comes with a price and if you're willing, just pay it.

 

[EmJay]

But seriously are there truly men on LPSG who would love to be with a woman who would appreciate their lovestick next to all the other pluses and minuses you have..and just engage in conversations that are not always about sex, the size of your penis, the admiration for it, what sexal position I like, what sizes I have had in the past, what pictures of me (naked) I can send, sexy camsessions, etc etc etc?

I would just for once love to have a fun or serious conversation with someone here (who's not gay ;-)) where its all about life or our lives or whatever..and just indulge in those moments (knowing that should we connect on a deeper level..he's got it made right there)..

No seriously.. yes I enjoy looking at some of the pictures on here, yes I extend my appreciation for someone by giving compliments,..

But does that mean..that anything about our getting acquainted has to be about sex? (don't mind the occasional sexy chat though..but its about balance)

Are there men out here who are even remotely interested in finding someone with whom they can share a wonderfully fullfilling sexy life??..

Or is this just about fantasies and hooking up?

Because if the last thing is true..its no use for 'sizequeens' like ourselves to do anything but browse around here and there, post here and there and that's it..

No need to feel sad and lonely either...its just what it is..and then the reality of it all is that in the 'offline world' it will be all about that roulette game when dating....

 

[Shawn8]

I don't mind men from out of state :wink:

LOL you both now owe me a new monitor AND keyboard. :biggrin1:

S8

 

[D_Barbi_Dahl]

Someone's endowment is one element of what I am looking for, not the basis. You could say the same about an ass man, breast man. I did settle once, my ex was five in and for five years, I settled for less than what I wanted sexually. Just as I need my partner to be intelligent, I need him to be able to satisfy my sexual needs, just like I need to satisfy him.

Well said sqny ~ I agree 100%!

 

[D_Barbi_Dahl]

But seriously are there truly men on LPSG who would love to be with a woman who would appreciate their lovestick next to all the other pluses and minuses you have..and just engage in conversations that are not always about sex, the size of your penis, the admiration for it, what sexal position I like, what sizes I have had in the past, what pictures of me (naked) I can send, sexy camsessions, etc etc etc?

I would just for once love to have a fun or serious conversation with someone here (who's not gay ;-)) where its all about life or our lives or whatever..and just indulge in those moments (knowing that should we connect on a deeper level..he's got it made right there)..

No seriously.. yes I enjoy looking at some of the pictures on here, yes I extend my appreciation for someone by giving compliments,..

But does that mean..that anything about our getting acquainted has to be about sex? (don't mind the occasional sexy chat though..but its about balance)

Are there men out here who are even remotely interested in finding someone with whom they can share a wonderfully fullfilling sexy life??..

Or is this just about fantasies and hooking up?

Because if the last thing is true..its no use for 'sizequeens' like ourselves to do anything but browse around here and there, post here and there and that's it..

No need to feel sad and lonely either...its just what it is..and then the reality of it all is that in the 'offline world' it will be all about that roulette game when dating....

I have made 2 male bff's (best friends forever) on this site. Neither are gay or bi. I communicate with them every day...and mostly NOT about sex. They are wonderful, caring friends...and may know more about me than people I see daily. I value their friendships and consider them true friends. Additionally, I have made a great girl friend via this site too. There are awesome people here - male and female. It doesn't take much to get to know them on a non-sexual level. Hope you find some true friends here too!

 

[EmJay]

I have one wonderful gay friend here..Just adore him by the way..But we wouldnt be able to go anywhere would we? LOL..
And I'm talking to someone else..but we are still in that grey zone..have not figured out yet what's what yet with him.. My gut says nothing..but hey..I might be surprised..

I am patient though..even though it might not seem like it. I was just wondering about it all..

Its nice to read that you were able to find some lovely friends here

 

[sizequeenNY]

I have made 2 male bff's (best friends forever) on this site. Neither are gay or bi. I communicate with them every day...and mostly NOT about sex. They are wonderful, caring friends...and may know more about me than people I see daily. I value their friendships and consider them true friends. Additionally, I have made a great girl friend via this site too. There are awesome people here - male and female. It doesn't take much to get to know them on a non-sexual level. Hope you find some true friends here too!

Me too, made some friends from here

 

[fresh88]

Just to add an additional perspective from a gay man's POV, I experience the same dilemma. While on one hand I know that I would not be interested in dating a small-cocked guy long-term, I don't want to go from bed to bed until I find one that would be a candidate. Internet searching helps to at least narrow down the search but it feels cheap and dirty somehow. IE - Where did you meet? Oh just a forum about big cocks...ackward right?

As a size king, i feel ya ladies.

 

[john_hiemer]

I don't mind men from out of state :wink:

I just happen to be from a neighboring state

 

[sizequeenNY]

I just happen to be from a neighboring state

But where is Newton and what if I break out into John Jacob(jingle)Hiemer Schmidt

 

[B_crackoff]

I would just for once love to have a fun or serious conversation with someone here (who's not gay ;-)) where its all about life or our lives or whatever..and just indulge in those moments (knowing that should we connect on a deeper level..he's got it made right there)

But does that mean..that anything about our getting acquainted has to be about sex? (don't mind the occasional sexy chat though..but its about balance)

Are there men out here who are even remotely interested in finding someone with whom they can share a wonderfully fullfilling sexy life??..

Yes, but that's what real life is for.:smile:

It does sound like the OP should really just get past her squeamishness & start banging a few guys with big cocks. It really is the quickest & most effective way to see if you click with someone.

It's clear it's the main consideration. I've never not had sex on the first date (or night even) - so if they're equipped, see how it all pans out.

If you're on a big cock or S&M website looking for action, however you percieve yourself, you're always gonna be considered a wee bit of a tart (male or female).

Maybe it's some kind of middle class American prurient attitude that stops you from racking up a few more notches, but it doesn't sit well with wanting to be jackhammered by a big cock!

Wanting XY & Z as subsidiary qualities just gets in the way of living your life, & possibly finding emotional satisfaction & mental wellbeing in the arms of someone whose CV doesn't tick all the boxes.

Just get a big dick - don't want the moon on a stick!:biggrin1:

 

[Drifterwood]

Someone's endowment is one element of what I am looking for, not the basis. You could say the same about an ass man, breast man. I did settle once, my ex was five in and for five years, I settled for less than what I wanted sexually. Just as I need my partner to be intelligent, I need him to be able to satisfy my sexual needs, just like I need to satisfy him.

I would rather not have sex with every guy I go on a date with. I think that is more respectable than sampling everyone I meet. Besides not wanting to be promiscuous, I am in NYC and while people should always practice safe sex, people should be even more cautious in large cities where people have higher numbers, raising their risk factor

I didn't say that it was the basis, I said that it was a must have to pass go. You may have many other things that you wish for, and whilst you may compromise on some of these, you won't on cock size. I am no different; for me it's smart.

Again, I didn't say that you should have sex with everyone you date; I said if you get to the point where you might want to have sex with simeone. The interesting thing would be if you were in two minds about sex. If you then found out that the guy was packing, would this affect your decision? :wink:

 

[B_subgirrl]

I don't agree with that at all.

Nor do I.

No need to point it out, I already know that if I got lucky enough to bed (or make out with her) I would get the "let's be friend" mini-speech.

Not necessarily. Sex with a large penis will not necessarily convert someone into a sizequeen, despite what you read on here. I'm sure there are plenty of women out there who don't require an above average cock for a relationship.

Bad News!
570,000 men with at least a 7& 1/2 inch penis size in New York State

25% are under 18 or over 65. (-142,500)
5% are gay (- 28,500)
40% are Married (-228,000)
10% are below poverty level (- 57,000)
20% suffer from mental illness (-114,000)

TOTAL (-570,000)

No one available.

Ah, but some of those will cross over (for instance a married guy with a mental illness), leaving a very small handful of eligible men. You just gotta find them.

But seriously are there truly men on LPSG who would love to be with a woman who would appreciate their lovestick next to all the other pluses and minuses you have..and just engage in conversations that are not always about sex, the size of your penis, the admiration for it, what sexal position I like, what sizes I have had in the past, what pictures of me (naked) I can send, sexy camsessions, etc etc etc?

I would just for once love to have a fun or serious conversation with someone here (who's not gay ;-)) where its all about life or our lives or whatever..and just indulge in those moments (knowing that should we connect on a deeper level..he's got it made right there)..

No seriously.. yes I enjoy looking at some of the pictures on here, yes I extend my appreciation for someone by giving compliments,..

But does that mean..that anything about our getting acquainted has to be about sex? (don't mind the occasional sexy chat though..but its about balance)

Are there men out here who are even remotely interested in finding someone with whom they can share a wonderfully fullfilling sexy life??..

I've made several extremely good friends on here who I would be with in an instant if they were local and available. Sure we talk about sex sometimes. But we talk about a whole lot of other stuff too. The guys who can actually hold up their side of a decent conversation, without it having to be about cock, are out there. They are just few and far between.

 

[Drifterwood]

Ah, but some of those will cross over (for instance a married guy with a mental illness),

Isn't that the definition of a married guy? :biggrin1: