Before we get started, I know I keep bashing on and on about it, but consider the fact I have Aspergers Syndrome, which does and will cause a lot of problems with relationships, if you have the time, I recommend reading: Asperger syndrome - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia That done? Right. Now, the problem, I don't mind girls fancing me, but if you notice, there is one big problem with aspies, that is: " Individuals with AS experience difficulties in basic elements of social interaction, which may include a failure to develop friendships or enjoy spontaneous interests or achievements with others, a lack of social or emotional reciprocity, and impaired nonverbal behaviors such as eye contact, facial expression, posture, and gesture." (from Wikipedia). Basically meaning that body language is often miss-read, so, small cues can indicate problems. The opposite is true as well, we may take some subtle hints and grossly over exaggerate them. Now, there is a reason why I am asking for help, despite the fact that for a lot of you, its going to be a tough question to answer. Anyway, I was waiting for a bus, in a slightly pissed off mood.. (LONG STORY STARTS) Who turns up you may ask? Well, there was a girl right next to me one evening in January, with her friends, I am sitting on my own (85% of the time, its the same, on my own, travelling to home and college and back). As soon as she sat next to me, her conversation turned a little sexual and a little worrying. At the age of 16, while nearly 22, I thought, this isn't going to work and at the same time, I thought I smelt a rat (so to speak.). The bus gets nearer to Havant and she starts throwing sweets at me and when I get off, she grabs my arse. After a few weeks of quietness, she was there at the bus stop, waiting for the bus, so she says "maybe we'll sit next to him" while stroking my arm. Ofcourse, the bus moves to the wrong place and I am near last in the queue, while forced to stand. She does/says nothing. Her friend gets off and I ask "were you being serious about your offer or joking?", she confesses "joking" after repeating the question 4 times, so, I go back to the front. Little scared I confess. So I get off a stop early and do my usual fast pace walk to Havant Station (and safety). (LONG STORY ENDS). Anyway, the point is, I am one of these vunerable people, scared and worried, but with the right person, a very nice person I can be. I feel vunerable, as my mind isn't quite right, as mentioned above. So I get the fear that I maybe exploited or taken advantage of and the question now relates to relationships. The thing is, I don't want to go out and shag a 16yo girl, as to me (and to the law), its wrong, if she really does choose me, then I guess thats ok, but I am still worried about the legitimacy. If shes been exploiting me this long (and it maybe to her, that she isn't, but appears to me), I am very concerned that this could be applied to most others. So, how do you detect a genuine person and a time waster? What differences do they have? Because, to me, both can look the same and if one is timewasting, it may categorise someone who isn't timewasting as a timewaster to me. I'd appeciate any help given and hopefully, its not only me with the same problem.