Sucking obsession

[dude_007]

I don’t think your problem is the fear of becoming addicted to cock sucking, I think this is more about acceptance of your own sexuality; fearing how you might be viewed by society. I’ve never done a pole and don’t really know, but I imagine there’s a large number of, so called, straight men, husbands and fathers, who deal with this on a daily basis. Some even with their partner’s knowing/accepting that side of their nature. I know the sympathy and support on this site is reassuring and is often in abundance, but it may be that you need expert help on this, as the more you worry about it, the worse it will become.

Couldn't have said it better!
(Except the part about doing a pole...certainly not true in my case)

 

[dude_007]

also don't agree with what some people have said about some/most straight guys loving to suck cock....aside from members of this site, most straight men I've ever known have no desire to give another guy a blowjob

 

[Macholoco]

im obssesed with sucking. i love it!!!! can do it for long long time

 

[Phil Ayesho]

The OP mentions experience sucking cock as a youngster.


Once again... research strongly suggests that men are, generally, bisexual, and the level to which they are bisexual is often dictated by early experience.

I am predominantly heterosexual by basic nature... but also had homosexual experiences in my youth that involved sucking cock.
As a result... even though I am only attracted to women, and only form love relationships with women, I can not help the fact that that early conditioning resulted in my having a strong desire to suck cock and to really enjoy it...

Like the OP, for a long time my fantasies would evaporate as soon as I came, and I would feel some level of shame or embarrassment about them, since I really had no interest in a serious sexual relationship with another man.

Eventually, I came to grips with the realization that my response was simply something that got programed into me at an age when my sexual imagination was in its formative stage... it affected the way my brain is wired... and really has nothing to do with my relationship preferences, or day to day actions...
I can choose to act upon those fantasies, or not.

To this day I really enjoy gay porn, as well as straight porn... I still regularly fantasize about sucking cock... but I also realize that this is just a conditioned response, and that the love and fidelity I feel for the woman in my life is what dictates my actions.

I do not worry about "what it means"... because it doesn't 'mean' anything except that I had an early experience that was pleasurable and now have that association stuck in my brain.


As a caveat... yes... you can become addicted to sucking cock... or any sexual activity that constitutes an extreme from your norm... As Anais Nin wrote, exotic flavors dull the palate to ordinary tastes.

You can get caught up in fantasies and begin to see these notions as integral to the person you are... and, given the fact that many men are profligately promiscuous, and capable of emotionally uninvolved sexual behavior, you can form a habit of casual sexual encounter that does not involve your heart and become quite used to, and even narrow your sexual response to this kind of dangerous or empty sexual conduct.

It is okay to experiment and indulge your desires, as long as you are able to discern that these desires are not really YOU, but merely the echoes of your early experience at a formative age.

For myself... I played around with it in my youth... tried it a handfull of times, both to ascertain that I really wasn't emotionally attracted to men, and to "get it out of my system"... basically, to eliminate that sense of always wondering and never having tried it...
I have those memories to draw on in moments of fantasy... and, having been there, and done that, it was easier, in subsequent years, for me to turn my back on it and dedicate myself to fidelity with one woman.

 

[B_thickjohnny]

I think you have a slight phobia TJ (Having read a good number of posts of yours over my time on LPSG). A (Gay) friend of mine has it too, he would freak out about having a very rare casual sexual encounter which horniness had driven him too, because he was so phobic about STDs.

All I can say is that I've sucked a couple of guy's shares of cock over the years and I haven't once caught any STDs. :wink:

But a phobia isn't rational so that evidence may make no difference to how you feel. The best way to address this kind of thing is some cognitive therapy aimed at helping you overcome whatever it is that causes you to be phobic.

I never had this phobia until I DID get a STD several years ago. Then I got another. Seems I'm more susceptible to STDs if that's possible - and I'm a healthy guy! I never thought GETTING a BJ was so dangerous in this regard. I think I heard you get them because the giver carries the STD virus in their throat (and might not have any other symptoms) and it goes into your urethra.

 

[Phil Ayesho]

also don't agree with what some people have said about some/most straight guys loving to suck cock....aside from members of this site, most straight men I've ever known have no desire to give another guy a blowjob

bullshit.
All you know is what most straight men CLAIM about their preferences.

Obviously, in a society that can demonize homosexual behavior, most men will present themselves as being exclusively heterosexual.
But research shows a very different picture, with only around 10% of the male population showing no sign of arousal at gay imagery.

Witness how many men claiming 100% straight on this very site express interest in viewing if not fantasizing about other cocks, and realize that even those claiming zero interest are, nevertheless, ON THIS SITE.

When assured of total anonymity, the number of straight males who will admit to homosexual desires or experiences goes up starkly... Kinsey reporting 1/3 of all males admitting to actual homosexual acts, and another fifth admitting to fantasies.

All real evidence supports the notion that human males are, essentially, Generally sexual, and that they fall individually on a bell curve from 10% exclusively heterosexual to 10% exclusively homosexual, with the majority some admixture in between.

 

[hungryman40]

Well, here's the thing. I don't consider myself to be gay or bisexual. Rant all you like, but that's the case. I LOVE to suck a cock or get fucked up the ass as much as I love to lick pussy and cum inside a lady. Both are very enjoyable.

The reason I consider myself to be Heterosexual, as that I don't like touching, kissing, hugging, caressing man in ANY way. To me a bisexual or homosexual man craves the intimacy of a relationship and or kissing hugging etc with a man.

If I could buy a real cock that was 8-10 inches long that I could just throw a switch and suck it or get fucked by it, I would NEVER consider meeting a real guy. That's why glory holes and back hallways are so incredibly popular I feel.

Give me a guy that doesn't want to even touch me, other than to hold my head while he fucks my throat, and I'm there 110%. If they are into touching or caressing me, I turn right off.

So, in my humble opinion, I am not gay because I do NOT like carnal relations with men..I just love to suck their cocks. While I do love my wife and everything about her, I just wish she had a great strap on cock and would use it on me.

 

[maxcok]

Well, here's the thing. I don't consider myself to be gay or bisexual. Rant all you like, but that's the case. I LOVE to suck a cock or get fucked up the ass as much as I love to lick pussy and cum inside a lady. Both are very enjoyable.

Dude, this is not a rant, but in your profile you say you're 60/40, which I would say, along with your sexual interests and activities, puts you pretty squarely and solidly in the bisexual camp, by your own definition.

[EDIT: I just noticed that after I posted you changed your percentages to 80/20.]

The reason I consider myself to be Heterosexual, as that I don't like touching, kissing, hugging, caressing man in ANY way. To me a bisexual or homosexual man craves the intimacy of a relationship and or kissing hugging etc with a man.

A common misconception and rationalization. Imported from another thread, one that might also interest you:

. . . . we are talking about sexual orientation here, not romantic orientation. Though the two can coexist, and often do, they are separate.

If I could buy a real cock that was 8-10 inches long that I could just throw a switch and suck it or get fucked by it, I would NEVER consider meeting a real guy. That's why glory holes and back hallways are so incredibly popular I feel.

They're also popular because a lot of men lead double lives in secrecy, and many live in denial.
I'm NOT saying that's necessarily the case with you, though it sounds like it very well could be.

Give me a guy that doesn't want to even touch me, other than to hold my head while he fucks my throat, and I'm there 110%. If they are into touching or caressing me, I turn right off.

I wonder if social conditioning and your self-imposed limits might overwhelm any possible interest or desire.

So, in my humble opinion, I am not gay because I do NOT like carnal relations with men..I just love to suck their cocks.

Bbbut . . . you just said at the top of this post, " I LOVE to suck a cock or get fucked up the ass". That sounds to me about as "carnal" as you can get. As an aside, and contrary to popular stereotype, buttfucking is NOT required to be a card carrying bisexual, or even a full-fledged homosexual. In fact, many self-defined homosexuals never ever engage in buttfuckery at all. It's the gender of the people you have sex with that determines your sexual orientation, not the specific activities you engage in - romantic, sexual or otherwise.

While I do love my wife and everything about her, I just wish she had a great strap on cock and would use it on me.

Then why don't you get her one? (Somehow though, I don't think that will be enough for you, "hungryman".)

 

[SR_dangling8]

I think about it regularly. Gloryhole would be my way but too scared. Hard just thinkin about it but lose the urge after cumming. I'd only ever if I found a gf who was turned on by it and would MFM bi with me. I've a girl in mind. Open to a lot.

 

[B_curiousazn]

I'm 18 and feel like your story relates to me SO MUCH you have no idea. I know I'm heterosexual because I could only imagine myself in relationship with a girl for the rest of my life but doing anything else with a guy (except giving oral) makes me sick.
Like for a year I've been recently reading stories and watching porn to the point where I started growing this Cock fixation..
Everyday I think about sucking a big juicy cock when I'm horny or jerking off and fantasy about deepthroating, getting facefucked, cocked slapped or swallowing cum. But like you after I cum, all the horny nasty thoughts disgust me and I go "WTF". Yet the thoughts only come back again and again.

Except the only difference about your story is that ever since I developed a interest in reading "gay incest daddy/uncle" stories I developed a fantasy for big older men cocks. I am instantly turned off by anal most of the time so everytime I watch porn I sometimes wish I was that girl sucking.

I grown such an obsession that I thought it was time I should just get it over with you know? So my cravings will decrease.. So I went to craigslist..
I posted that I was a "Curious Asian 18 yo old who wanted to service a Older man".. I basically said everything I just told you and that I wanted to try oral only and wanted no reciprocation because I knew that if I ever came during meeting another man I would feel disgusted and go home.

So after so many responses from all these gorgeous cocks..there was one that I became interested in very much. Of course I was just looking for a 1 on 1 since its going to my first time. But this 40+ gay couple who lived close sent me a pics of both their beautiful 9 inch cocks and said they would love to let a newbie experience his first cock(s) and do whatever I only was comfortable doing. I was skeptical about them being legit until they sent me face pics and pics of their actual wedding. omg I couldn't passed down such a offer..but to be honest I am also afraid that I will become very addicted to sucking cock/cum and come back to them for more but even more afraid if anyone finds out. I am meeting them in a week..
Can you tell me what to expect?
So it's okay to have feelings like this right? even though I could only develop feelings for girls and could only imagine being with one for life.. I think I could call myself heterosexual right? or am i bisexual? whatttt am i!!?

 

[dong-in-khakis]

Welcome to bisexuallity.

If you do anything that you really want to do with a guy, especially sucking cock, you will go back for more and possibly develop more sexual interests in men.

Not trying to scare you, but be warned. Men like sucking cock more than women!

 

[B_curiousazn]

Welcome to bisexuallity.

If you do anything that you really want to do with a guy, especially sucking cock, you will go back for more and possibly develop more sexual interests in men.

Not trying to scare you, but be warned. Men like sucking cock more than women!

OH God..Lol I got the definitions mixed up! Thanks for clarifying that..lol ;]

 

[Clancy7]

I consider myself "bi" my shrink says "gay" it matters not because I like sucking cock and was once told that, for me a guy gives me the intense feeling of sex and a cock is a large part of that; and a woman gives me the longer term emotional support that I also like very much.

 

[Clancy7]

"I know the sympathy and support on this site is reassuring and is often in abundance, but it may be that you need expert help on this, as the more you worry about it, the worse it will become."

Well stated..."Even the greatest scientist may not be called genius, but suck one cock and everyone will call you gay." So don't worry what others think, get professional help.

 

[B_curiousazn]

Gee after reading through this forum.. I am less nervous about going to meet them. I realize that it's inevitable that if I don't meet the couple then my cravings and thoughts will only increase..and that I should just enjoy what they have in store for me lol. Thanks to this sites like this I am prepared for the worst. If I become addicted..then I'll just have to accept it. Does anal make me gay? or would I still be bi?

 

[tncentaur]

Well, I quit talking it away long ago. Why label yourself at all? Most of us are trisexual--we will try what we think we might like. Do what gives you pleasure if you can do so responsibly to yourself and your partner(s). Guilt and shame and the expectations of others are not good for guiding your life. Self-justification is for assholes, and there is no orientation that is orthosexual (i.e., the right way). Oops! Look at the time--gotta go have me some good sex.

 

[SUPERFAN]

I am straight but got so horny I sucked a cock and now I am addicted to it. I am still attracted to women, but I think about sucking dicks most ofthe time. I do it every chance I get. I also swallow it. I just love doing it.

 

[SlamminSammy]

I have always been curious about sucking one, but only one bigger than mine.

Not tried it yet......

I feel the same way & I'm still waiting to suck my first.

 

[VoyeurEx]

SUCKING DICK is one of life's GREATEST PLEASURES!

 

[1IamSmall123]

Hey!

I'm looking to be pigeon-holed here....can someone help? Lol