mtl85
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Hello everybody.
I have been with the lpsg site from the very beginning and over the years I have been communicating with a large number of people from all walks of life, different nationalities and a multitude of sexual orientations.
This has taught me a lot and as so many questions have been raised, more and more answers have had to be found.
Knowing how some people who visit the site tend to jump on posts which go against their initial way of thinking, I specifically ask you to please take the time to properly reflect at what I am writing before pushing the respond button.
Now to what I feel I have come to realise.
I think there is a huge need among men for other male friends.
No, I am not talking about another buddy to have a few drinks with, or to watch the next game with. I am talking about a friend who we can be open, honest and vulnerable with, without the fear of having what we have just confessed to, be thrown back into our faces with a laugh.
One of the reasons for why I think this is the case is that I during these years of communicating about sensative issues with others over the net, I have met a unproportionable amount of men who have what they describe as bisexual tendencies.
At first, I often assumed that it was bisexual and gay men who, through their sexual orientation, were more likely to contribute to a site dedicated to a topic such as penis size.
While I still think this may well be true to some extent, I have now begun to think that a very large group of men have misinterpreted their need and longing for a close non-sexual relationship with other males for being bisexual urges.
As those of you who have been in contact with me over the years know, I am far from being a homophobe, so I am not saying that those who really are bisexual are wrong in any way.
As humans we are all sexual beings and as we all know, our sex drive is very powerful and I believe we all depend on being reassured by others in order to feel good about ourselves.
Women compliment eachother all the time, but often do us men actually compliment eachother ?
Sure, we probably all think it, but for whatever reasons it usually stops with a thought inside our own heads.
I have a feeling that many men who think they might be bisexual, really just crave a close and open relationship with one or several other men.
All of us who come to the lpsg site know how easy it is to talk openly and honestly when we are on-line, but very few of us would be comfortable ever talking about these same issues when face to face with somebody.
Not long ago, I had a chat with a middleaged person who told me he is married. He also said he has bisexual urges.
His limited experiences of male to male sexual contacts had extended to mutual masturbation sessions.
His wife was not aware.
He also told me that these mutual masturbation sessions with other men had not been as rewarding as he had hoped they would be.
He was left with a very empty feeling afterwards as these relationships didn't lead to any closeness between the two men, which was really what he had been hoping for.
I wouldn't be entirely truthful if I didn't admit to sometimes having questioned my own sexual feelings over the years, but as I have come to the conclusion that I really do not have any sexual desire for males, I have come to realise that I have a strong need for close non-sexual bonds with other men.
This post is starting to get very long, and I fear nobody is going to take the time to read it through if I continue rambling on, so I will leave it at this, and hopefully others will add to this thread with their own feelings and thoughts.
Regards
jumbo747jet
Brilliant.