I would CONSIDER seeing a therapist, but would like to think that we would be able to solve our problems before it got to that point. I'd be reluctant to see a therapist because I feel I know most of the psychological techniques already. If I couldn't put them into action without a therapist, I'm not sure how an occasional visit to a therapist would help.
It might not help, but it really could, and not because the therapist knows any techniques that you don't know or could learn. It's the act of having that neutral third person there, and the act of actually insisting on therapy that makes the difference, not the therapist's techniques.
The problem with communication between partners isn't usually a technique that the therapist uses that you don't know, in my experience. There are other psychological factors involved when you introduce a third person to the problem that sometimes works when trying to talk to your partner has failed.
I've only gone the therapy route once with a partner, but it was effective exactly the way that I expected it to be. Sometimes your partner can't hear the truth if it comes from you, especially if you're claiming that you're being treated in an unfair way by him or if it's become an issue so big that he no longer hears you on it. He goes, "Yeah, yeah, blah, blah, blah," (at least in his head, you can practically hear it) and ignores you again when you bring it up. Hearing a neutral third party whom he doesn't have any emotions invested in basically tell him exactly what you've told him, just in a different way, that can be frustrating for you, but sometimes it's the only way to make a breakthrough to your partner that your issue or your opinion truly has validity because it's come from a person who has some sort of authority and no personal interest invested in that opinion. That neutral position can make it easier for your partner to hear uncomfortable truths or approach the same old issue in a new way.
Also the act of "going to therapy" shows a level of seriousness about the issue that can get your partner's attention and make him/her realize that you really consider it a big deal in a way that complaining about the problem one more time just doens't get across. So many of the men in that other thread complain about the fact that their wives just don't realize how important sex is to them, no matter how many times they tell her. Well, going to a therapist might get the point across that it really is a big deal to you, it's not just another thing on the list of things that you regularly nag her about. Plus, how is your partner going to take you seriously about whether or not you consider it a big deal, if the only thing that ever happens is you bring the subject up, she shuts you down, and then you give up? That's not acting like the issue is important. Insisting that you have to solve the problem and if you can't solve the problem just between the two of you, that you will bring in professionals to solve it, that treats the problem like it's truly important to you and it cannot go unsolved, and THAT can make your partner more serious about solving the problem, too.
Plus, there's this interesting phenomenon where people want to be seen in the best light by the therapist, so surprising progress can be made on problems that your partner previously acted like an ass about when it was just between the two of you. Simply realizing how you look or sound to a third person can make someone realize how they're acting. A husband who suggests for the 100th time that his wife try to enjoy oral sex might get laughed at again, but when told by a therapist that she ought to give it a shot, she may become self-aware of how selfish she's been behaving and give that assignment a lot more serious effort.
Also, sometimes a couple just needs a kick in the pants to make a change, especially if you've fallen into an established routine. If you've stopped having sex ages ago and it's become very infrequent, but you're really happy with your family life and you love your children and otherwise your relationship is great, then maybe having someone else tell your wife to focus on your pleasure tonight and tell you to focus on her pleasure on another specific night might be the impetus that actually makes it happen and kickstart your sex life again, whereas if it was just up to the two of you, you'd let it slide again this week because of the same reasons you did last week, and it gets put off again, just like it did before, week after week until those weeks added up to years.
There's lots of ways that it could help, and it might not help and turn out to be a huge waste of time, but I think the most important reason to try it is that if talking to your partner hasn't already worked, then your options are 1) Living with an unhappy sex life, 2) Leaving your mate that you're otherwise happy with, or 3) Trying anything else in an attempt to fix it.
