Shelby, I do understand what you're saying, and of course people are different in some ways. It speaks well of your family that you were raised to respect all people as being of equal value, that is a good gift. You weren't here last year when we went through this topic as a group in great detail, and some of my quickness to dismiss this topic is related to that. Several black men talked in depth about how damaging that particular stereotype is because most black men are average size, like everybody else. However, when all of society believes something so farfetched to the contrary, then all your prospective partners are expecting you to be hung like a donkey too. Since most are in fact average, they are made to feel inadequate more than the "average white guy". If we allow this misconception to continue, we (perhaps unknowingly) bring trauma and self-loathing to a group of people who gets shit on by society pretty regularly already, it seems unconcionably cruel to me.
There is a saying in Sanskrit, "Wisdom with compassion leads to enlightenment". To me, any bare data that is void of interest on it's social impact is unenlightened. Any data gathered with the intent of proving a certain set of facts will probably prove those facts, but that doesn't make it true. I have yet to find a penis size study that was NOT self-measured, even Kinsey who I believe is as close to accurate as it gets.
I started a thread on cock size and intelligence shortly after I joined here bacuse I was so impressed with the level of conversational discussion I found. I started asking guys privately if they knew their IQ scores. Some did, many didn't. The ones who self-reported were very much in keeping with their linguistic skills, and the others took an online IQ test I sent them to and emailed me the results. I have long been able to guess fairly close (within about 10 pts either way) a person's IQ by their written verbal skills, not just their sentence structure but also the subjects they find interesting, what they spend time thinking about, a lot of things go into it. There were no surprises in my "research". Now, this was as unoffcial as it gets, because I was only asking guys that I knew were smart and had a big dick! However, only about 2% of the population has an IQ over 130 and only about 2% of the population has a dick over 8'', so what would be the likelihood that I'd find over 100 men who had both in just a few days? Well, the problem is, that this site has set the bar pretty high for conversation, so many who feel they can't "keep up" gramatically won't post here, so we have some serious self-selection going on. Out of 11,000+ members, only about 300 post, so that's just over 2%! Of the posting members, less than half are actually hung, many are average and some are women. The level of intelligence revealed through writing does not vary from hung to average to women (I did ask or test a few from the other groups.) I dropped the theory because it was more for my amusement than anything else and it was clear that it was insulting to a lot of people who don't need that. My point is that I could have easily put together a compelling looking study and submitted it to a known institute on sex research had I been thus inclined and you might be reading about it today. That wouldn't make it factual, still only my opinion based on a small sampling.
My problem with racially biased information is not that they don't have any point at all, but that more often than not, it is collected for the purpose of proving the inferiority of one race compared to another. Even when it's supposedly a compliment, ie "black men are better at sports, have bigger dicks, are physically stronger" the VERY CLEAR implication socially is that they've got the better physique, but whites have the better brains. Now, I'm sure I've read more studies than almost anyone on this and I find them to be horrendously slanted and unfounded in anything realistic. We must always remember how very recently we started realising that insulting blacks was a bad thing! Many of these studies were done when it was a "commonly acccepted fact" that blacks were inferior. Well, there was a time when it was a "commonly accepted fact" that the world was flat- that still didn't make it true.
Discernment- use it or lose it. Weigh carefully what you choose to accept as fact. Gather data from as many varied sources as possible before making any kind of determination. Learn more, read more, love more. Use your briiliant minds and do not separate them from your hearts. We will find things closer to the truth in this manner.