Can straight men be jerkbuds?

[Joshua.Martiny]

So I wanna find another straight dude who is confortable drinking, watchin the game and is cool jerking off to some straight or lesbian porn... but I just feel that most dudes on here want something else. They say they want a jerk bud and once u drop your pants they wanna suck u n do other things... It doesn't bother me that they're gay, but why lie? Has that happened to any of you? Would you jerk off with another dudes? And how do you get the point across that you only want to jerk off?

 

[Jjz1109]

Wow. This one is tough. I read here lots of guys who share chicks (or fantasize about it) and have no problem being in a room naked with another dude, presumably enjoying the experience and urging each other on. So because we dudes want to share something we all love to do, and choose to do it with a bud present, we’re suddenly “gay”? Two buds jerking to some hot porn and getting off now makes one gay? I don’t know. I. Truly. Don’t. Know. I would say it depends how confident you feel with yourself. and whether or not you want to do it.

 

[BMDUBYA]

Threads like this are so funny. The thread is called Ask a straight man, yet the vast majority of the males answering questions here are either gay or bisexual. Straight males don't jerk off with other males, Straight males don't blow other men, straight males don't let other males blow them, straight males don't fuck other males or let other males fuck them. I don't see why this is so hard to understand.

Dude. I am a straight guy and I have jerked off in the same room/bed with a buddy watching porn. I’ve sucked and enjoyed being sucked by a dude. Never with a gay guy. Always just bros that understand that our dicks do not determine our sexuality or love and need of a female.

 

[aloftinak85]

Love stroking with my straight bro

 

[Joshua.Martiny]

Well, I'm days away from turning 26 and been married since i was almost 21. We're not separating, but I don't want to get into a relationship at the moment. Ever since i moved out, I've been looking for guys to jerk off with and talk about sex. I just find it hard to find a guy who's on the same page and only wants to stroke. So far I've met 3 dudes. One straight out grabbed my dick, which was different. Things just got weird when he tried sucking it cuz i'm not into that. The second guy i met at the gym and we would spot each other and stuff like that. One time i was in the sauna wearing boxers and ge kept glancing and figured he was just curious. Went to the shower and jerked off from across showers. That was pretty cool and we did that a couple times. One time he invited me to his place and we were having a drink, and he started asking me how far i would go with a guy. I thought he had a valid question and so i told him i was only looking to jerk off. It just got weird cuz he said he likes taking deep up his ass, which is cool. But he said he jerks off with me thinking of me fuckin him. Again. I didn't mind, that's his thing. He tried kissing me and that just killed everything for me. Third guy i met on here and it didn't workout, not gonna tell his business on here though for obvious reasons!

 

[Revone]

I know what you mean. I’d like a jerk off buddy too. Hang out watch a game drink some beer maybe watch some porn and get naked. It’d be fun to just sit there with our dicks out talking and stroking. I live in the same state but further north. Too bad we’re not closer. So hard to find a jo buddy.

 

[MKey]

There been so much fuckin bullshit said here by guys apparently either cryptogay or some other way not secure with their sexuality lmao... Let's get it fuckin' straight once and for all - it ain't gay to j/o with your bros when you're all str8, for fuck sake! It's actually super straight cuz you're all comfortable with urselves and don't consider doin' anything gay together... It's more gay (if you really wanna think of it like that) to be afraid of chillin' with ur bros naked together.

Glad to see most straight dudes over here seem reasonable enough to say it's fine and also hella fun. Chillin together watching porn or a game, boozin and whatever else lol, while being all naked and stroking, that's bro bonding at it's finest. No chicks, just bros, feeling comfortable and cheeky, showing off their strokin techniques, shooting shit about girls and sex in general, commenting on the porn, comparing their turn ons/offs... Chill as fuck. And yes, u can look at all the cocks and muscle for however long u like, same as all men do in gym or pool locker rooms and communal showers... It's just what men do!

 

[Komland]

I posted this a while back but seems like it’s necessary to repost:

There’s a reason that guys who identify as straight are interested in dick - it’s because when seeing another dick they think of their own. It’s called living vicariously.

It’s why all straight guys watch porn with both cock and pussy - because they’re identifying with the cock on the screen.

Lesbian porn, or solo female porn, is fine but the overwhelming majority of men would ultimately feel that something is missing - they want to watch a woman penetrated and that’s because they put themselves in the position of whoever possesses the cock on screen and ‘feel’ whatever they feel.

This is the reason it’s possible to be straight but be turned on by cocks in situations like circle jerks. It’s perfectly possible to feel horny watching guys masturbate - because you identify with the act and know how it feels.

That’s totally different from wanting a physical relationship with a man, or sexual initimacy, or whatever.

Believe it or not, people are the best judge of their own sexuality. I’m happily married, enjoy a wonderful sex life with my wife, but just occasionally wank in a social group. This is nothing to do with my sexuality - it’s fun, it’s exhibitionism, it’s daring

 

[Thomas82]

Never tried.I have a mate I sense wouldn’t mind giving it a go. We have shared a lot, travelled together, spent quite a bit of time naked together in the sauna (natural thing in my culture). We do check each other...He’s also a big hugger especially when we get drunk. We are both married, but I guess the curious side is a bit tempted. I think our great friendship could handle it. Just some wank nothing more. But like said, no experience.

 

[greek0588]

As a straight dude that jerks off with other straight guys I'm 1000% sure that straight guys can be jerkbuds.

 

[Joshua.Martiny]

I agree @Jjz1109 I am pretty confident. I know it sounds strange to b naked around another guy, but like you said. I think it would be like sharing a pussy. Except we're jerking off!

 

[Road_cyclist]

Just my opinion but the activity itself between two or more males whether spontaneous, planned, coordinated or unplanned (jerking with or in front of another guy) is gay, regardless of whether you're straight or not.

I respect your opinion, because nobody is the same. But I would like to apply my point of view to it. What you are saying here is very binary. It sounds as if you are actually saying that all straight, curious, and bi men (and everything in between) are actually gay once they jerk together.

It doesn't matter what kind of porn you're watching, if you have your cock out and you're jerking off with another guy you should be prepared for or anticipate that the other guy may want it to go further.

IMHO that says more about being uncertain about the sexuality of oneself or the sexuality of the other than what jerking off actually is.

If a female offered to masturbate with you while you were watching straight or lesbian porn, would you just sit there without pushing the envelope?

That would definitely be very difficult for a straight man. But I guess it wouldn't be a challenge for a gay man. And it also wouldn't be a challenge for two straight guys who masturbate together. That is, if they are sure about their sexuality.

If you're having a hard time finding takers, go figure right?

makes me wonder how many men are actually out there who would be interested to jerk off with a bud, but are afraid of labels.

To wrap it up. I jerk off with my best bud and believe me, there is no pushing of boundaries and also no desire to push boundaries to go further than that. IMHO we're just best buds who trust each other and ourselves enough to do together what most guys only dare doing alone. So why the labels?

 

[Revone]

Oh man that sucks. I'm really not into kissing men or touching... I just like the idea of bonding with a male friend. I don't know if that makes any sence to any of u!

It makes sense to me. I have no desire to kiss etc. with another guy. It’s about having a friend and enjoying the male comerodary and trust so we can be men unashamed. I’d like that kind of honest bonding friendship where we can get naked together and share a jerk off session. I think a lot of us guys are looking for a friend to bond with and act like masculine men.

 

[Road_cyclist]

i don't think this is possible. even to @Komland post above, straight guys to project themselves into the cock in a porn video but i think when it happens in real life and there is another cock next to you, a straight guy would only invoke "gay" thoughts in his head and freak out.

I quite agree with @Komland. And I would like to add my opinion to it.

One straight guy might invoke "gay" thoughts in his head and freak out. The other straight guy might be very sure about his sexuality and not invoke "gay" thoughts and not freak out.

All guys love to masturbate, so why not do it together? If a guy has confidence in his own sexuality, and there is full mutual trust with a buddy, it is perfectly possible to be straight and masturbate together without having any gay thoughts or more importantly, without having fear of labels.

Oh wait...did someone reading this just get a gay thought about masturbation? Ask yourself why? Why do you want to apply this label?

 

[Joshuahm13]

Well, I'm days away from turning 26 and been married since i was almost 21. We're not separating, but I don't want to get into a relationship at the moment. Ever since i moved out, I've been looking for guys to jerk off with and talk about sex. I just find it hard to find a guy who's on the same page and only wants to stroke. So far I've met 3 dudes. One straight out grabbed my dick, which was different. Things just got weird when he tried sucking it cuz i'm not into that. The second guy i met at the gym and we would spot each other and stuff like that. One time i was in the sauna wearing boxers and ge kept glancing and figured he was just curious. Went to the shower and jerked off from across showers. That was pretty cool and we did that a couple times. One time he invited me to his place and we were having a drink, and he started asking me how far i would go with a guy. I thought he had a valid question and so i told him i was only looking to jerk off. It just got weird cuz he said he likes taking deep up his ass, which is cool. But he said he jerks off with me thinking of me fuckin him. Again. I didn't mind, that's his thing. He tried kissing me and that just killed everything for me. Third guy i met on here and it didn't workout, not gonna tell his business on here though for obvious reasons!

I’m bi and I’m always there for my straight friends when it comes to talking about sex and just jerking off with each other. Sure I like dick but I’m not gonna force anyone into something they don’t want. If they want me to suck their dick I will but if a guy were to say let’s just jerk off together I would respect that and not try to make a move on them. I get what you mean though a lot of guys are into experimenting and though I’d love to do stuff with my straight buds I wouldn’t do anything they weren’t comfortable with

 

[deleted741646]

If you and the other bro have a chill vibe and are on the same page of how you view it then go for it. Jerking off and reliving yourself in front of another male doesn't indicate whatsoever that you are attracted to that dude at all. For me, it could be about having the comfort to just be real men in front of each other where the things you do alone as men can also be done in front of each other if the comfort between the two of you is there. Some straight dudes are uncomfortable with that notion and thats cool for them and totally ok but for some it's not a big deal at all. If me and another bro don't give a fuck about having to leave the room then im beating my dick like he's not even there or how I would if I were alone. I dont give a fuck and other straight dudes being uncomfortable with it isn't going to change how I look at it at all. Be you and do you. I think a ton of bros find camaraderie in bonding over these types of things and having that freedom around each other but are severely affected by how society would view it and so they don't at all. What matters is what you and your bro think about it and if you both are on the same page about it. Jerking off in the same room has nothing to do with sexuality whatsoever in my opinion nor does comfort equate to that either. I had one roommate where we never wanted to feel uncomfortable in front of each other and we would jerk off in front of each other plenty of times. We both understood it from the same perspective and it made not one fucking dent to our identity at all. There were so many times were one wasn't even remotely aware the other was beating their dick because it was that chill and understood we that we had needs just like there were also times where one would ask to save the porn for the other. Go for it if you and the bro are on the same page and make sure you high five when you are done.

 

[Joshua.Martiny]

Well, I get your point. Some guys say they're straight and like suckin dick, but I don't like it. Just a preference... but the couple of times i tried finding a dude only for jerking off, it seemed like they wanted more. I specially said jerk bud. No offense to those men that like suckin dick out there. I respect your sexual preference, but i like the same in return. I just think we all have different things we're into, but we need to stop trying to get others to like what we do...

 

[Gj816]

I've jerked off with other straight guys while watching straight porn. Of course the other guys and myself included would check out each other's stroking styles.

Watched each other blow a load and comment on who shot off the farthest and who shot off a huge load. Once the first guy starts cuming the others will soon follow. Sometimes we'd even cum at the same time. Can be haf.

 

[gymbro30]

There been so much fuckin bullshit said here by guys apparently either cryptogay or some other way not secure with their sexuality lmao... Let's get it fuckin' straight once and for all - it ain't gay to j/o with your bros when you're all str8, for fuck sake! It's actually super straight cuz you're all comfortable with urselves and don't consider doin' anything gay together... It's more gay (if you really wanna think of it like that) to be afraid of chillin' with ur bros naked together.

Glad to see most straight dudes over here seem reasonable enough to say it's fine and also hella fun. Chillin together watching porn or a game, boozin and whatever else lol, while being all naked and stroking, that's bro bonding at it's finest. No chicks, just bros, feeling comfortable and cheeky, showing off their strokin techniques, shooting shit about girls and sex in general, commenting on the porn, comparing their turn ons/offs... Chill as fuck. And yes, u can look at all the cocks and muscle for however long u like, same as all men do in gym or pool locker rooms and communal showers... It's just what men do!

Amen to that bro and couldn't agree more. It amazes me how insecure so many guys are, and suddenly everything is gay...taking a shower after the gym is gay, pissing in a urinal is gay, if I am ever naked in the presence of another man I am gay, if I accidentally see another naked man I am gay, pretty soon just having a dick will be considered gay, period ....men really need to get over themselves, and I feel like it's a generational thing. Funny thing is, until 20 years ago or so people might have assumed you are gay for NOT doing all of those things...funny how things change.

 

[Tom smith11111]

Me and my work mate do sometimes we just talk about sex wank on snap job done

doesn’t mean your gay in my opinion nothing wrong with it mate