madame zora said:
...but most people just think it's bad manners to SOUND rude. They think if you phrase something nicely, that makes it acceptable, and I vehemently disagree. I'd rather someone bluntly call me a bitch than dance around it with flowery language, then expect me not to be offended.
I once started a thread about his very concept...:biggrin1:
dong 20 said:
Lex asked are there cirmumstances in which gender would make a difference, well there are, violence is one, if a man provokes me to violence I will hit him, extending that logic and thus implying I should punch out a women with equanimity doesn't sit well with me at all.
I just fail to see how that applies to a message board. Is someone planning to perpetrate violence against one of our posters? Many of the other posters on this thread stated that most posts give up the gender of the poster in their contexts, and the rest, simply do not require the reader to know the poster's gender. Someone may have accepted Pichulon's examples on their face, but they really were piss poor. All of his examples made the reader curious about sexual orientation, not gender. At least that's what I remember thinking as I read them.
I am going to have to agree with the majority on this one, especially after many private exchanges with Pichulon. He has no questions, only preconceived notions on which he will not permit persuasion (so do I, but I don't go around asking questions!). He's got deep-seated bigotry against homosexuals. He claims to love and protect women, but his speech just seems to make most of us feel pidgeon-holed and subjugated. He makes things up, too. I posted about words I said to him in private, and he sends me a message decrying me for exposing his private conversation with me. I never have, and perhaps never will publish what he said to me. *shrug* I think the members here have demonstrated that they will not put up with bigotry in many threads here, especially of late. It angers us, at our core. Pichulon said exactly the right things to piss us off. I think if his abhorence for certain people had been overt, he'd never have been so viciously attacked. But becasue (dare I say it?) his biases were veiled behind politeisms and niceties, people took a special delight in making him stop.
But then again, I've been wrong before, and I promised myself I wouldn't comment on these matters, and I'd avoid certain topics.