This is a hard one for me personally to reply to...
I have, since the age of 11 (the past 14 years) felt uncomfortable in my body, if it is viewed as being good OR bad...
In general I am happiest if no attention is paid to my physicality (oddly though, I am only talking about face to face attention, online is just different lol)
So called 'positive' attention tends to make me want to shy away, as if if they look at me too long I might have to live up to that positive attention in some way; and frankly 'negative' attention just makes me feel bad... So I can't win...
I have recently lost a LOT of weight (110lbs over the last 18 months-ish) so I guess despite my previously stated attitude I do in some way feel a need to look 'attractive' as defined by the majority... Personally I put this down to survival instinct...
As for 'hating my body' I can't say that I do. I disagree with a LOT of the choices that my body tries to force me to make in the way it reacts to certain stimuli (over eating) but having been quite, quite ill twice in my life (both illnesses brought me close to death on more occasions than I care to remember), and ignored by the medical profession when I asked for help the only thing that has allowed me to survive is the capacity for health that my body has naturally... So I can't really hate it due to my those experiences since you have to be ALIVE to hate something...
-J- x
Well knowing you're sensitive about it I wont compliment you on how you loook right now, but I'll congratulate you on what is an epic weight loss
I lost 85lbs 10 years ago and have kept it off so I know exactly how much work you put into that, seriously you should be incredibly pleased and proud of yourself. :redface:
Dont like your body?fix it.
OK, honestly I wish I could just fix my body. I have three incurable neurological conditions (one of which would have killed me a long time ago if I weren't fully medicated for it), one serious and at times debilitating skin condition, liver damage from the meds I take and a childhood illness, and a disorder of the alimentary canal which my doctors haven't yet aggreed a diagnosis for.
I take shit loads of meds, with loads of side effects; of my neurological meds at least two have the so called "minor side effects" of muscle growth inhibition and weight gain along with other less friendly effects.
And yet I still lost 85 lbs 10 years ago and have kept it off, I eat a balanced and healthy diet, I work out 4 times a week and do yoga twice a week. I don't drink alcohol except on special occassions, I haven't been anywhere near fast-food in more than ten years.
I probably live a more healthily, and do more of the stuff that's supposed to "fix" my body than most people do.
I know exactly what you mean, from watching tv you'd think every man was movie star handsome and ridiculously ripped. As well as that, while society has picked up on the fact that portraying women as sex objects is wrong, men are fair game because we don't have the same hang ups. Quite often on tv ads for products that aren't even glamourous too, they will use sort of an attractive mum like woman but the man will be a tanned muscular guy with white teeth. It seems like the idea of an attractive woman is more varied and diverse whereas what makes an attractive man is very set in stone, and if you don't fit the mould then tough. Anyone else agree?
This is true, I mean I'm not stupid enough to think that I should look like a model, I know that men come in all shapes and sizes, and to some extent I like that there is some degree of pressure on me to keep in shape, but that doesn't mean I don't feel slightly oppressed sometimes by the endless stream of abs and pecs and perfect skin which are part of the wallpaper of our culture these days.
there are many many days when i wish i was not in this body. the physical pain i go through on a daily basis is sometimes more than i can deal. my years of playing sports i guess have caught up with me and oftentimes it is difficult for me to walk for more than a couple of blocks. i do physical therapy to help build muscles but sometimes it gets so overwhelming.
I'm really sorry you suffer so much pain Frat :frown1: I sometimes feel a little trapped inside my body, I can only imagine how you must feel. I hope that your doctors find you appropriate treatment and you start to get some relief. :redface:
not really? but whatever you're going to have your opinion of me anyway, even if its based off nothing ... with that being said all i was trying to say is that getting upset over your body is a waste of time because it doesn't solve whatever "problem" it may be that you have with yourself ... no need to throw your insecurities at me for trying to be nice and try to be supportive (this is a large penis SUPPORT group btw) even if it was not the most helpful thing at the time ... you can continue in your self loathing now :dunno:
I don't loathe myself in the slightest, and your posts to this thread have not been supportive or nice, they were at best thoughtlessly unhelpful and are now simply trolling. Now please stop attempting to threadjack and either contribute something helpful or move on. I wont ask again, I'll just report you.