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I don't really understand. People can accept heterosexuality and homosexuality, so why not both of them together? I mean, thats what bisexual is. I hate how ppl say they are accepting, when they're NOT..., this is kinda one of those situations...
How would this be any different than a Straight Man wanting to cheat on his wife with another woman or a Gay Man wanting to cheat on his man with another man.
I don't think because the options of having sex with either sex means that if someone is locked into a relationship that they are more likely to cheat on that person.
Buddy, generalisations stink. Gay, straight or bi - there are jerks. Period. However not all gay, straight or bisexual people behave in the same manner.
I am deeply aware of my wife's feelings and they are always considered. Regardless of how painful/scary/vulnerable things may be, I ALWAYS strive to be completely honest and upfront with my wife so that she knows what's going on inside of me so that this knowledge is enables her to make informed decisions about what's in her best interests. I've gone so far as to offer her divorce (before having any kind of relationship with a man) in order to try to protect her from pain and destruction.
There may be some who think that it's a free for all but not all of us conduct ourselves in this manner. It pains me deeply that she has a bisexual husband because I can't help but feel as if she's gotten a raw deal (though she tries to reassure me that this isn't the case). God alone knows how I wish that I knew that I was bi before I had gotten married so that she would have been able to have decided if she wanted to marry me in light of what this reality puts before her - it is deeply regrettable on my part. Truth be told (and I've told her this as well), if I had known that I was bi, much as I love her (and did at the time) I don't think that I would have married her. It just seems to be so unfair to me. The ideal for me would be for to bisexual people to enter into a committed relationship together.
I have however given myself permission (so has she) to allow myself to be bi because that is who I am. It is not for the sake of sex, thrills or lust but to be able to live out my truth without trying to suppress parts of myself or my desires. I reached this point in my life because I realised that I cannot live out a fractured existence and by trying to suppress things, I actually stood to make things worse ie it would have a negative impact on my wife and marriage. I also realised that I had no right to demand or even request this of my wife hence my suggestion that we have a serious look at getting divorced.
we accept them if they have big dicks
To be fair to you, you realized after you were married that you were bi, so I really can't point fingers. To be fair for me, you know what your wife is or may be going through, so you should understand that I don't want to go though that nor deal with it at all.
Personally, i have been not 'accepted' by male gays and straight people.
any lesbian or other bi have been very warm towards me and understanding.
as said before, often people just don't understand and think i am some kind of perv because i like hot guys and hot girls.
but whatever, the best of both worlds :wink:
Quadee, I'm not telling you that you have to go through anything. I am however trying to point out that we all deal with things differently...and that not all bi folk treat their orientation like a free for all.
In all honesty (and much to my surprise) my wife isn't going through very much. She REALLY is alright with everything. She tells me that the only thing that she has to contend with, and it makes her feel insecure is the fact that I've become very grey. Up till the past eight months I was a black and white kind of guy. I knew who I was, where I was going, what I wanted from the future but now it's all diminished into varying shades of grey and it makes her feel a bit insecure.
Please know that I'm not trying to convince you to or not to do anything. You are entitled to decide on what's best for you and what makes you the most happy. I'm only challenging the stereotyping, misconception and discrimination.
The only way to see somebody else's vision of the world is through discussion. I think that the important thing to remember in threads like this is that in the midst of the disagreement, misunderstanding and even anger/frustration/hurt we are talking and with it comes the opportunity to educate.
I think it's one-dimensional to define one's-self soley by sexuality or race.
I also think that's meant to be solely.
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Originally Posted by willow78
I also think that's meant to be solely.
Just ask the original author to be 100% certain. :wink: