What would you do if her vagina was....

[ItsAll4Kim]

I never said it did make for a shallow person. Only that that was the question. And even though this a penis based site, and no one is contesting that, the rules of forum are to generally stay on topic. I have no issue with penises or discussions of them obviously. Only that there are so many discussing the importance of preference of size surely there is room to ask the equivalent question about preferences for vaginal tightness.
No one called anyone shallow or the like.
I think perhaps somehow you read me wrong or I did not bring my point across properly. I only responded in kind to questions asked and tried to bring this back to topic. I feel as though you think I was criticizing a person for their likes. I was not trying to speak for all women or all men. You comment feels a little spurred with reminders I do not really need as I agree with all you have said well before you said it.
Beautifully stated by the way.

Yes, you brought the discussion back on topic, and my post was intended to be in that spirit. My opinions were just that....mine, not those of this station or its advertisers........

 

[find83]

if the woman was just a hookup or fuck friend then I would probably stop having sex with here because our relationship is purely a sexual one. If she is too tight that I can't get in or I'm causing here too much pain; or too loose (haven't had that case yet) I don't see the point in us continuing it's better we part ways and find someone that can satisfy our needs better. If I was dating the woman then it's a bit different because their are other stuff than just sex to consider like how she makes you feel, her character and personality. So I would try other things to get her off because penetration is not the only thing in sex.
For me to dump her we would have to be REALLY sexually incompatible.

 

[KennF]

If I found a woman who's vagina was "loose" and she wanted it "tighter", then I'd tell her to work her muscles with Kegels, give herself some time, and allow the strength/elasticity of her muscle tissue to return.

Vagina size isn't the same as penis size. You can work your muscles and improve your "tightness".

And if you ask wally, no one is going around looking at the looseness of your vagina in order to figure out if you're worth a job. That's covered up. You'd probably be better off sticking 7 pairs of socks and showing a bulge.

 

[knowmore123]

Some guys would. Some guys would seek out a woman with breasts of a certain size or shape. Some would seek out a woman with amazing fellating skill, or feet with very high arches, or a round ass. Nature has hard wired humans to have sexual desire in order to continue the species. Being aroused is critical to this. Being happy and secure is a secondary requirement for the ability to get aroused. How each of us are aroused is highly individualized.

This site is about penises. It will naturally attract people who have a lot of energy around this one bit of anatomy, for reasons that will be in common, and reasons that may be far removed from anyone else's. Those of us here should not be confused with the mainstream, as I doubt we're "the norm".

There are a lot of guys for whom penis size is very important in their lives, and this site will attract them. The fact that there might be a dozen women here, or two, or fifty, who aren't into big penises as a fetish or strong desire doesn't discount the dozen, or two, or fifty, for whom it is important or critical. They don't speak for all women, or all men, any more than guys who claim women all want big cocks speak for all women. None of us can speak for all of us, or all of our sex. So while there will be guys for whom vaginal tightness is critical, there will also be women for whom a large penis is critical. It doesn't make them wrong or shallow.

Just one opinion, obviously....

You have framed your opinion very nicely

 

[AlteredEgo]

Not all women want to be bought or can even be bought. So yes, there can most definitely be unattractive people no matter how big their bank account is.

I can appreciate athletic skills, but that has never been a trait that mattered enough to me to be a perk or something I looked for. I don't care if someone is famous either.

One of several reasons I did not go forward with one man who asked for my hand was his money. I had a sense he felt like he could buy me and make me a trophy. The life he described giving me was amazing. Because of his social status, there would be tea with the prime minister, cocktail parties with the mayor, food competitions to judge, concerts and backstage passes, sit-downs with rock stars, and a leadership role in any charitable or activist cause I wanted. But he also said he would give me all the financial backing to open a restaurant downtown, and a condo by the river for me and my grandmother. I did notice the one he offered me did not have enough bedrooms for his children to all sleep over at once. That gave me pause. Was I going to be family, or his novelty black American woman that he kept in the city, far from his family's quiet, low-key village existence? It was all too much in conjunction with the international travel, coture dresses, jewelry, etc. I liked the humble, funny stranger with the lonely eyes that I giggled with over espresso I procured for free through my contacts. That was the man I encountered when we first met. I was in love with THAT guy. Not whatever facet popped up once he wanted to make me his wife. I broke it off and spent the next three years with a struggling factory worker. When things ended with him, I had a brief relationship with a construction apprentice. He had enough money that together we would never have had financial hardship. But that wasn't enough to keep me.

What am I looking for? The father of my children, primarily. When I find him, I'll let you know. I'll be queen in his court, a general in his army, and all the pretty colors in his sunrises. I'm a good ally, a real partner, and I want a man who can offer me the same.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Oh, and my most recent ex, the construction guy, was not a fan of the tightness of my vagina, though my little pussy was fanatical about him.

 

[XXXWolverineXXX]

I am more concerned with how the pussy looks and tastes then the tightness but that's just me.

 

[Mrlong38]

I am more concerned with how the pussy looks and tastes then the tightness but that's just me.

Well derp. Big fellas like us never run into loose pussies. Idk if any big guy has, i mean we are big.

 

[BetterFuture]

I like the original question @rtg - clever idea to flip things around to try to help us see some of the silliness!

And the original question: I have never once felt that a woman's vagina was too tight or too loose for me. So the thought of breaking up over it never crossed my mind. I have noticed differences in aroused vaginal depth... uh oh, opening up a can of worms. But seriously, unless we were physically unable to have PIV sex even after a lot of foreplay and lube, I don't think that it would even cross my mind.

If anything, I think that finding a good match between a particular man's penis size and a particular woman's vaginal size may make for ideal sex. But, there is a lot of room for error here and an exact match is definitely not needed.

From an earlier post by me in a different thread:

Only looking at the physical... for women who like to have penis-in-vagina sex with men... the mythical average woman might prefer penises slightly larger than the mythical average man has. But each individual woman is differently sized inside has different preferences so there's no one ideally sized penis. And even if a guy had this preferred average size women want, that only works for the women who wanted around that size. Average is average... individual women want small, medium, and large. The Kama Sutra categorizes penis sizes and vagina sizes and talks about how finding a good match is important. What's too big for one woman might be smaller than what another woman might want.​

And on the 'women want men for money/power' thing mentioned... I think that this has changed dramatically over the past 50 years (at least here in the U.S.) and far fewer women care a lot about this. Women can make plenty of money for themselves and have no need for a man to provide for them... I never want a woman to need me, I want her to want me for everything that makes me, me.

And we can never forget that this site is weird... there's no where near a random sample of men and women here.

 

[deleted924715]

It's good to see a few posts by men pointing out that genital size is all relative to a partners own size and preference. It takes two to tango and everyone's genitals are individual and each pairing is individual. Some of those who have no comprehension of this fact, I'm 99% sure, have had one sexual partner maximum and are drawing generalisations from their lack of experience. Or porn.

 

[knowmore123]

It's good to see a few posts by men pointing out that genital size is all relative to a partners own size and preference. It takes two to tango and everyone's genitals are individual and each pairing is individual. Some of those who have no comprehension of this fact, I'm 99% sure, have had one sexual partner maximum and are drawing generalisations from their lack of experience. Or porn.

your post sounds logical

 

[XXXWolverineXXX]

Well derp. Big fellas like us never run into loose pussies. Idk if any big guy has, i mean we are big.

Very true but if I had to chose I am going to go with the pretty Looking pussy over feeling.

 

[Jckd_co]

Lol @rtg makes a good point, but I gobble several people don't get the rhetorical nature of her questioning and actually think this is a thread about how loose a vagina should be

Good point though,rtg

 

[Mrlong38]

Very true but if I had to chose I am going to go with the pretty Looking pussy over feeling.

Me too

 

[swingfun]

I think what rtg and a few others have said is that most men (and some women) are WAT too size obsessed. I dont ever remember hearing once i was too big or small or thinking...i wish her pussy was larger..or smaller or her tits were bigger. I think they way you treat a woman is far more important to her.

 

[XXXWolverineXXX]

I think what rtg and a few others have said is that most men (and some women) are WAT too size obsessed. I dont ever remember hearing once i was too big or small or thinking...i wish her pussy was larger..or smaller or her tits were bigger. I think they way you treat a woman is far more important to her.

Hey hey hey hold up don't throw bOObs in the mix because thOOse things can never be tOO big. Give me big fake bOObs and a tiny waist and you can have my ATM card.

 

[swingfun]

Hate to disagree wolverine but yeah...once in a while they can be a little too big. My wife now is an E cup. I think that its a good size on her 5-6 135# frame. However i didnt marry her because she had big tits. I married her because she treats me well and shes a joy to be around and she likes a lot of the same things i like. My cock size or her pussy tightness or boob size doesent enter in to any of the equation. Ive seen some women with boob jobs and they looked awful.

 

[halcyondays]

Are you sangheilli90?

No. But I am a biologist. The science is established. Don't shoot the messenger.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Lol @rtg makes a good point, but I gobble several people don't get the rhetorical nature of her questioning and actually think this is a thread about how loose a vagina should be

Good point though,rtg

It's actually quite like the parable about the blind men and the elephant.

 

[Jckd_co]

Btw, that was supposed to say "gather", not gobble lol lol