She would notice the difference even if she's never been with someone with more girth? Or is hoping for that even statistically feasible?
I think it is statistically feasible...but not probable, but that may not matter much, and here's why (allow me to geek out for a while):
According to the following study done by the CDC, the median number of lifetime sexual partners for women is 4.
New Survey Tells How Much Sex We're Having
Let's err on the side of caution and say that she is a woman your age and yet has
already had 4 partners. If you are roughly in the 40th percentile for penis size, then it is probable that she has had 2 or maybe 3 partners that are (a little) larger than you.
However, do not despair.
The chances that she has had a partner a
lot larger than you are
much slimmer.
According to LifeStyles circumference data, only 1 in 4 guys has a penis of 5" circumference or larger.
For 5.5", it is about 1 in 10. And for 6", it is about 1 in 75.
So, statistically, the likelihood is that she may have had 1 guy with 5" of girth, zero or 1 guys with 5.5" (closer to zero), and the probability of her having encountered a 6" girth is so small it is virtually nil.
Putting all this together, the point is that
most or all of her partners have had <5" of girth, which to me, is not a big enough difference from 4.5" to cause that much of a different sensation. Neither girth for me is enough to make me feel "stretched," but I am capable of feeling pleasure from either girth (based on experience, not guesswork). So for all practical purposes, IMO, they are the same.
Therefore, 75% of her partners have felt (IMO) not all that much different than you will feel.
Now, if she has had less than the median (say, one or two partners -- and there are many, many women out there for whom this is the case), then the statistics indicate
neither of her partners have been significantly larger than you (enough to make a real difference in sensation).
I really hope this information helps you, which it should if you focus on the positive and don't zero in on the negatives.
But, if it isn't feasible you say she will notice the difference and it will just be filed away somewhere in her mind. On a long list of attributes of me in her subconscious there will be "does not stretch me at all" listed.
Yes, and as subgirrl so eloquently expressed, in the grand scheme of things this is not that important.
What if she ever relayed that bit to her friends? They would tell others and if we broke up I'd have to move to a new town to get a date!
Again I'm totally with subgirrl -- stop dramatizing!
Uh...they're hung? They're not hung but don't mind cocaine addicts? They're hung and their dick spews cocaine? All other men have turned gay? They don't mind being with a woman they are not sexually attracted to? They found one of those awesome (but rare) women that really don't care about looks at all? Is this multiple choice?
I am now adding wittiness to your list of positive attributes. :smile:
So I have to wait until they are a used up, broken shell of their former self? Should I be trying to join AA meetings or rehab sessions for former drug users? At what age do women normaly outgrow their "bad boy" needs? 33? 35? Or is it dependent on how many kids they are now the single mother of? If so should I be looking for single moms with 2, 3 or more kids fathered by different dads?
Okay, now this pisses me off.
The first time around I married essentially a "bad boy" -- before meeting me he had been lead guitarist in a fairly popular band in Oakland for five years. He was a former drug user. He still smoked and abused alcohol. He had long hair and a tattoo. He was cocky and not all that kind. He had slept with over 100 women.
Take a good look at me now. Am I used up? Do I appear to be a broken shell? Am I a former drug user or alcoholic?
The answer is a resounding "no!"
During the time I was with my ex, despite our problems, or perhaps because of them, I grew as a person. If I was
ever a broken shell, it was when I
met him -- at the time I had virtually no self-esteem and my only real requirement in a man was that he be extremely unlikely to ever leave me or abandon me --
not a healthy basis on which to build a relationship, or choose a partner.
During the years in which that relationship failed to fulfill me or make me happy, I discovered my self-esteem. I became unashamed to be my true self. I became able to stand on my own two feet. And no, this process did not happen overnight, and it was not finished by the time I was 23, or 26. I would say I was approximately 30 by the time I truly knew I did not need my ex.
But
you are approximately 30!
So what if it takes some women until they are over 30 to figure out what they really need! And WTF is wrong with a woman of 33, or 35? If you are ruling out women over 30, then you are
severely limiting your options!
Now say the woman you meet
is a single mother.
So fucking what???
A number of women your age are going to be mothers, whether they ever liked bad boys or not. If she is a good person and you love her and she loves you, WTF does it matter?
Some of the friends I have had who were/are single moms have been among the strongest and most mature, stable people I know! If you are eliminating women from your choices based on them being single moms, IMO you are making a mistake.
At what point, in terms of the number of her former partners, should I just assume she's had thicker than me? 3? 5? 8? 10? 15? 25?
See above.
If she's had more than that number (hypothetically let's say it's 8 partners), and statistically has almost certainly had someone thicker than me, should I just write off any gal that's had more partners than that and not even try?
No, no, no! Again you are displaying a really low opinion of women.
For the last goddamned time, the vast majority of us are NOT shallow enough to reject a good man based on the size of his cock!!!
Dear God, why? You clearly could have done better.
Everyone needs a hobby. For a time, mine was having sex. I have had lots of friends. Many of them were guys. Some of them were cute, some weren't. If I genuinely liked them, it didn't matter. I enjoyed expressing my affection for them, sometimes by sleeping with them.
I have always been a very giving person. That is just who I am. If a guy I liked wanted to have sex with me, and I wasn't currently in a relationship, then I would have sex with the guy -- looks just weren't part of the equation.
...Other than that I thought your post kicked ass! Pitbull speaks words of wisdom.
Agreed. Pay attention to Pitbull.
And subgirrl.
And me.