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  1. ManlyBanisters

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    OK I'm putting this in women's because really I'm not trying to discuss the whole relationship name thing - I just want a word to replace boyfriend.

    See my comments and SP's comments here:
    http://www.lpsg.org/78065-married-single-or-otherwise-2.html

    Both of us have the same issue - we're women and we don't date 'boys' so why do we feel the need to use the term 'boyfriend'. Partner is a crappy sounding expression, SO is too fucking 'gen-X, hyperweb BS' for me, lover (as SP pointed out) really does emphasise the physical and 'this guy I'm seeing' is far too casual.

    My 'boy'friend is in his 50's - he is not a boy - but I can't call him my 'manfriend', it sounds weird. I can't call him my special friend because that sounds like it could mean something else (no nasty comments now - ty).

    Note: girlfriend is fine for older women - 'girl' is used for women far more than 'boy' is used for men so I don't have the same isssue with being a 'girlfriend'. It doesn't sound silly.

    So help me (and SP) out here. What does a grown woman call a grown man she's in a committed relationship with?
     
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    Maybe a bit old fashioned but what about Lover? Well it sounded good a minute ago:rolleyes:
     
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    Good thread MB I hope someone comes up with some workable suggestions :) I'm in agreement that it's ok being called a girlfriend too, no one I know calls me a woman, it's always 'she's a lovely girl' (I do hope they're not being sarcastic).
     
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    I kind of like 'lover' as well - but a lot of people interpret it as the relationship being just about sex, well that's what SP said - others think of it as old fashioned or, even worse, a bit 70's!! :eek:

    Someone suggested 'paramour' but I don't think I could actually introduce someone as my paramour without feeling like a total pseud.
     
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    my bull,
    call him w/e you want :)
     
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    you say, 'this is my man Hickboy"

    :)

    Like Pecker said, he's your man.
     
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    If I introduced someone to my mum as 'my lover' she'd had an apoplectic fit, she still thinks I'm a virgin despite the two kids.
     
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    Pecker is winning so far - 'my man' sounds alright. I also like the French 'mon mec' - but he's not French - so while it works OK here I can't see anyone in my hometown, or his, getting it.
     
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    consort?

    (cue evil laugh)
     
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    Now now - we don't want the fucking Spanish inquisition arriving in this thread too!! :eek:
     
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    I'll point out that you said that SP :biggrin:
     
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    A quick suggestion might be calling him, "My old man". I used to date a hippie kinda girl who used to use to refer to that way and I'd call her my "My old lady" when talking with other people.

    It sounds awkward for a little while but eventually it became comfortable enough. She used it to connote the fact that were in a relationship together and dating exclusively but without the labels of bf and gf.


    Thats the best I can think of at the moment unless you'd like to call him "Your better/other half"??
     
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    LOL!

    That sounds like all the kids (and adult "children", too) who don't think their parents ever have sex. Although of course they wouldn't be here if their parents didn't! :biggrin1:
     
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    Tough one... 'lover' is not really suitable for formal situations either.

    Partner is probably the best fit, but I agree that it's pretty crappy.

    Mate?
     
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    your man.i hear women here say it all the time.hes my man shes my lady and so on
     
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    It 's a bitch, isn't it?

    I usually call my s/o "my guy" or my "fiance" (we've been on the brink of marriage for almost 7 years).

    I put the question to a few online thesauruses, and compiled the following list.... ( excuse me for not taking out the feminine gender items)

    And after seeing the list, I'll probably use "sweetheart" more often, because, well, there's just such a sweetness to it -- and it implies a lovie-dovieness that reflects well on both partners in a LTR.

    ace
    admirer
    armpiece
    baby
    babycake
    beau
    beloved
    best girl
    boyfriend
    Casanova
    chick
    companion
    consort
    courter
    darling
    dear
    dear one
    dearest
    Don Juan
    dream girl
    dreamboat
    escort
    espoused
    feme covert
    fiancé
    fiancée
    flame
    gentleman friend
    girlfriend
    heartthrob
    helpmate
    helpmeet
    honey
    honeybunch
    husband
    idolizer
    inamorata
    inamorato
    infatuate
    Juliet
    ladylove
    Lothario
    love
    lovebird
    lover
    main man
    main squeeze
    mama
    master
    mate
    mistress
    number one
    numero uno
    old lady
    old man
    papa
    paramour
    partner
    patootie
    pet
    petitioner
    rib
    Romeo
    significant other
    solicitor
    soul mate
    spouse
    squeeze
    steady
    steady
    stud
    sugar daddy
    suitor
    suppliant
    swain
    sweet
    sweetheart
    sweetie
    treasure
    truelove
    turtledove
    valentine
    wife
    wooer
     
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    Yeah im gonna go with "your man" of course you would say "my man" it makes sense right and even I say that and im not older..
     
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    Wait, strike that. My mom-in-law has been dating a new guy for awhile and she just calls him "My Man." And it sounds perfectly natural and comfortable coming from her. I think I prefer the way that sounds over my previous suggestions.:rolleyes:
     
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