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[ManlyBanisters]

OK I'm putting this in women's because really I'm not trying to discuss the whole relationship name thing - I just want a word to replace boyfriend.

See my comments and SP's comments here:
http://www.lpsg.org/78065-married-single-or-otherwise-2.html

Both of us have the same issue - we're women and we don't date 'boys' so why do we feel the need to use the term 'boyfriend'. Partner is a crappy sounding expression, SO is too fucking 'gen-X, hyperweb BS' for me, lover (as SP pointed out) really does emphasise the physical and 'this guy I'm seeing' is far too casual.

My 'boy'friend is in his 50's - he is not a boy - but I can't call him my 'manfriend', it sounds weird. I can't call him my special friend because that sounds like it could mean something else (no nasty comments now - ty).

Note: girlfriend is fine for older women - 'girl' is used for women far more than 'boy' is used for men so I don't have the same isssue with being a 'girlfriend'. It doesn't sound silly.

So help me (and SP) out here. What does a grown woman call a grown man she's in a committed relationship with?

 

[Catchoftheday]

Maybe a bit old fashioned but what about Lover? Well it sounded good a minute ago

 

[SpoiledPrincess]

Good thread MB I hope someone comes up with some workable suggestions I'm in agreement that it's ok being called a girlfriend too, no one I know calls me a woman, it's always 'she's a lovely girl' (I do hope they're not being sarcastic).

 

[Pecker]

Man.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Maybe a bit old fashioned but what about Lover? Well it sounded good a minute ago

I kind of like 'lover' as well - but a lot of people interpret it as the relationship being just about sex, well that's what SP said - others think of it as old fashioned or, even worse, a bit 70's!!

Someone suggested 'paramour' but I don't think I could actually introduce someone as my paramour without feeling like a total pseud.

 

[B_andyo]

my bull,
call him w/e you want

 

[PussyWellington]

you say, 'this is my man Hickboy"



Like Pecker said, he's your man.

 

[SpoiledPrincess]

If I introduced someone to my mum as 'my lover' she'd had an apoplectic fit, she still thinks I'm a virgin despite the two kids.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Pecker is winning so far - 'my man' sounds alright. I also like the French 'mon mec' - but he's not French - so while it works OK here I can't see anyone in my hometown, or his, getting it.

 

[PussyWellington]

consort?

(cue evil laugh)

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Now now - we don't want the fucking Spanish inquisition arriving in this thread too!!

 

[SpoiledPrincess]

Minion

 

[ManlyBanisters]

I'll point out that you said that SP :biggrin:

 

[thoreau]

A quick suggestion might be calling him, "My old man". I used to date a hippie kinda girl who used to use to refer to that way and I'd call her my "My old lady" when talking with other people.

It sounds awkward for a little while but eventually it became comfortable enough. She used it to connote the fact that were in a relationship together and dating exclusively but without the labels of bf and gf.


Thats the best I can think of at the moment unless you'd like to call him "Your better/other half"??

 

[whatireallywant]

If I introduced someone to my mum as 'my lover' she'd had an apoplectic fit, she still thinks I'm a virgin despite the two kids.

LOL!

That sounds like all the kids (and adult "children", too) who don't think their parents ever have sex. Although of course they wouldn't be here if their parents didn't! :biggrin1:

 

[Mule]

Tough one... 'lover' is not really suitable for formal situations either.

Partner is probably the best fit, but I agree that it's pretty crappy.

Mate?

 

[D_smack ash]

your man.i hear women here say it all the time.hes my man shes my lady and so on

 

[Not_Punny]

It 's a bitch, isn't it?

I usually call my s/o "my guy" or my "fiance" (we've been on the brink of marriage for almost 7 years).

I put the question to a few online thesauruses, and compiled the following list.... ( excuse me for not taking out the feminine gender items)

And after seeing the list, I'll probably use "sweetheart" more often, because, well, there's just such a sweetness to it -- and it implies a lovie-dovieness that reflects well on both partners in a LTR.

ace
admirer
armpiece
baby
babycake
beau
beloved
best girl
boyfriend
Casanova
chick
companion
consort
courter
darling
dear
dear one
dearest
Don Juan
dream girl
dreamboat
escort
espoused
feme covert
fiancé
fiancée
flame
gentleman friend
girlfriend
heartthrob
helpmate
helpmeet
honey
honeybunch
husband
idolizer
inamorata
inamorato
infatuate
Juliet
ladylove
Lothario
love
lovebird
lover
main man
main squeeze
mama
master
mate
mistress
number one
numero uno
old lady
old man
papa
paramour
partner
patootie
pet
petitioner
rib
Romeo
significant other
solicitor
soul mate
spouse
squeeze
steady
steady
stud
sugar daddy
suitor
suppliant
swain
sweet
sweetheart
sweetie
treasure
truelove
turtledove
valentine
wife
wooer

 

[BremerChick]

Yeah im gonna go with "your man" of course you would say "my man" it makes sense right and even I say that and im not older..

 

[thoreau]

A quick suggestion might be calling him, "My old man". I used to date a hippie kinda girl who used to use to refer to that way and I'd call her my "My old lady" when talking with other people.

It sounds awkward for a little while but eventually it became comfortable enough. She used it to connote the fact that were in a relationship together and dating exclusively but without the labels of bf and gf.


Thats the best I can think of at the moment unless you'd like to call him "Your better/other half"??

Wait, strike that. My mom-in-law has been dating a new guy for awhile and she just calls him "My Man." And it sounds perfectly natural and comfortable coming from her. I think I prefer the way that sounds over my previous suggestions.