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so he wants a sugar daddy basically? lol idk
Nicholas demulder (fitness model - aka sean costin/max)
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A little past his prime for a sugar daddy. He's in his early 30s?
He should have looked for one when he first started, he was quite beautiful.
He should have looked for one when he first started, he was quite beautiful.
He's past his mark for a sugar daddy. They tend to get them when young and rather unknown online. Without any of the baggage they tweet out or post on their IG stories. Sean's chance was back in his Gayhoopla days when they had guys like Dominic White, Cole Money, Jason Keys, Sebastian Hook, Collin Simpson, Kyle Dean. But he probably declined offers then, thinking he was too good for that.
It sounds like he wants a sugar daddy but without the sex.
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- Taty,
He's conflicted on a lot of issues. He regrets doing porn. He hates he have to do it to make money. He wants a wife, children; a family. Women don't wanna associate with him because of the gay porn.
I think there’s more to it than just that, there’s a lot of women who are into bisexual men now a days I think he has more issues. I used to follow him on iG and he’d constantly go on rants
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He's got a lot of internal issues. He's constantly at conflict with his life choices.
i think he wants to just get to the point where he doesnt want rely on porn for income. theres a sugar daddy out there for him for sure. just may take a bit longer i guess.
he needs to manage his own issues and realize that all his problems, whether emotional or financial - have attainable solutions.
He should ask fellow coworker Collin Simpson on where to find women that can put up with his bullshit lol
- Taty,
Majority of women do not want a man who has had sex with other men; more so filmed it. I actually has his cell number and have spoke to him a number of times and can understand where he's coming from. While he has his issues. Doing porn is obviously something he feels he was tricked into doing... where he did not look at all the long term ramifications of doing it.
One day he will wake up and just disappear. He's not built for the lifestyle.
I have had private conversations with him as well. Those justifications just don't fly. It doesn't impact my ability to have empathy for him. However, it logically doesn't make sense. There are countless "gay for pay" performers that have girlfriends. It seems every Tom, Dick, and Harry that films porn says they're heterosexual. I'd estimate 75% of those men are in relationships with women.
Given the historically low standards of women, and the recent shortages of available men, there are women out there that will marry him. In his case, those justifications and projections provide him some means of soothing. The truth is, if he wanted a woman, he'd have a woman. His recent co-star Derek of Gayhoopla is in a porn scene with his girlfriend and "Sean Costin." So that example alone pokes holes in his logic.
All signs point to an identity crisis and issues related to his self worth and sexual identity. Pornography and sex work are customarily places for those with histories of abuse, to attempt to suss out their issues surrounding self worth. He is gorgeous and undoubtedly has the capacity to be successful in the adult space or any other area of his life. It may require medical intervention, but it's possible for him. I can relate to his feelings of helplessness. Though he has a few key factors working in his favor: he's attractive, he's racially ambiguous, and he's masculine. In this society those things can open many doors.
Although a prick, Thor Johnson is an example of what he can accomplish financially. One thing I suggested to him in the past was creating his own dildo. Thor did it recently. That alone could help provide some capital to do other things, like starting another business.
- Taty,
...and those who have girlfriends are white men. You can not apply these standards to this situations due to the fact Sean is not white and prefers women of color based on the conversations I had with him. No woman of color is gonna adjust herself to accept a man who has been penetrated in his ass, has sucked dick, and has had it filmed where it will live on the internet forever. Not only that as Sean stated he often wonders what "her" family will think about all he has done. What one group of women will accept from a man is not evenly attributed to all cultures and communities.
Many gays often live in these delusions of fantasy. But the truth is Sean hates the gays, he hates he has to do gay porn to make money. He hates communicating with homosexual men.
I am a black man. I can say with a high degree of certainty that there are black women out there for which his sexual proclivities will not be an issue. Black women are the most effected group in terms of lacking suitable partners for marriage. Many of those women have accepted "projects" that aren't half as good looking or accomplished in any arena. Its commonly talked about in our community, how many high value women select men solely on the basis of their potential. Simply put, there is a woman out there for everyone.
The barriers are a matter of his personal perspective and may not be reflective of the reality. I'm certain there are bisexual "women of color" out there. It seems that he is looking for a savior to make him feel whole and complete and to elevate his lifestyle. There are sugar mommas and daddies out there. I'm not so sure that would satisfy him and alleviate the issues he has though.
As far as what someone's family will think, everyone has something. For some people it's a criminal history, and for others it's previous relationships that ended in divorce. Spending energy fixating on the possibility of rejection only keeps him out of the dating pool. It does little to get him any step closer to his "goals." You and others that seek to enable a maladaptive frame of mind, won't assist him in changing his life in the ways he wants to. He is not without options. The problem in a nut shell is that he doesn't accept himself and he's ashamed of who he is and what he has done. Dealing with the shame is the only way through. Seeking out people to confirm negative ideas about himself will only make things worse.
I do feel bad for him cuz I do remember him posting on his IG story saying that if he were gay that he'd already be in a relationship by now
When on earth has that been the case? As gay men many of us, due to societal pressures and socialization, are precluded from engaging in relationships. There are significant barriers to entry for LGBTQ persons seeking reciprocal connection. What he needs, just like me, is some therapy. lol
- Taty,
If these dynamics existed a Black downlow community would not exist. Black women would not have the highest AIDS/HIV transmission rate. So why do these element exist? Because Black men who are bisexual feel they can't come out of the closet due to the culture. No Black woman wants a Bisexual man. It's look as a weakness. Yeah, Black women are willing to have a gay buddie... but to sleep with a man who sleeps with other men is a monstrosity. And this is why Black bisexual men remain in the closest; sleeping with men privately and claiming women publicly.
No, matter the position of Black women in the society Black women have standards. No matter how they look, no matter their status. Such communities such a Red Pill ect that attacks Black women for these standards would exist if Black women were liken to lower their standards. Women of color are not accepting of Bisexual men for relationships.
Setting aside all of the other comments posted, what he REALLY needs right now is for someone to lick up all of his enhanced brotein and to continue to suck his cock until he releases a second load. I guess I'll have to volunteer.
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