If these dynamics existed a Black downlow community would not exist. Black women would not have the highest AIDS/HIV transmission rate. So why do these element exist? Because Black men who are bisexual feel they can't come out of the closet due to the culture. No Black woman wants a Bisexual man. It's look as a weakness. Yeah, Black women are willing to have a gay buddie... but to sleep with a man who sleeps with other men is a monstrosity. And this is why Black bisexual men remain in the closest; sleeping with men privately and claiming women publicly.
No, matter the position of Black women in the society Black women have standards. No matter how they look, no matter their status. Such communities such a Red Pill ect that attacks Black women for these standards would exist if Black women were liken to lower their standards. Women of color are not accepting of Bisexual men for relationships.
You're making a host of assumptions! As we know, correlation doesn't prove causation! Additionally, let's think about this critically. If we are following your knowledge, women do sleep with and engage in relationship with men who have sex with men. The point you are failing to address is whether those women are knowingly engaging with men who have sex with men. The next broad assumption that was made is that these women would accept any host of negative attributes, but sleeping with men. If that were indeed true, then there wouldn't be high incidences of HIV amongst black women. Assuming what you are saying is correct.
The issue with down-low men is the patriarchal socialization that teaches them hyper-masculinity and toxicity are the benchmarks for acceptable male behavior. This leads men to concealing homosexual activity. In essence, men are socialized to feel shame for being same sex attracted, or for exhibiting behaviors that are aligned with femininity. Men are taught to believe that even experiencing the full array of human emotion is effeminate. That is what is fueling the behavior we are seeing with Nick. He is ashamed of his same sex desires. There is this notion that all of his discontent would be resolved by being accepted by a black woman. Mind you, this is all hearsay. I'd like to hear it from the horses mouth.
Nevertheless, these are projections that aren'r rooted in reality. The fundamental truth is absolutes do not exist. Just as he exists, there are black women that are open sexually and willing to date men who are open as well. They exist. To suggest they don't is unfair to black women and makes them responsible for his discontent, and the discontent of of other MSM. The truth is that these men do what is politically and socially expedient for them. They refuse to integrate their same sex attractions, ambivalence, or behavior into their identity. As a result, the shame spiral continues to perpetuate.
The key is a developed self, unrooted in shame! He hasn't come to terms with a bisexual orientation, and most would expect him to arrive at a place of assuredness. If he is indeed completely heterosexual, the same is true. Authenticity is a requirement for most well adjusted people. Ultimately, even if he couldn't find a black woman, adjusting one's expectations is a part of life. Plenty of people don't get the partner they expected. The ability to adjust and make concessions is a necessary life skill and integral to relating with ANYONE. Maybe dating a bisexual black woman may be required.
Again, if he wanted a woman (black, white, blue, or purple) he would have a woman. It is far more important for HIM to explore what he hopes to gain from said woman. Without sussing out the disparities between what a relationship can provide and what it can't is paramount. To you I suggest killing the negativity and checking what you stand to gain by reinforcing these negative thoughts about himself (again hearsay). Fueling the worldview that he is unviable relationally, or that his options are limited, serves you how?
https://youtu.be/bn4Tj838w48
(whew!!!) -- Where was I? Oh! If he pulled it together, and held it together, he would have a Daddy. The other side of the equation is that Daddies who pay for comfort expect things sexually on which the sugar cannot always deliver. They ARE human; they have days where their stomachs cannot tolerate penetration or they're just not really in the mood in general for sex or kinks. I tried sugaring once (naively in my 20s), and when I could not put out on one trip (I was a complete head case back then), I was made to carry all of my expenses going forward. That relationship burned out quickly.
