transformer_99
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"If you think you're being "crucified", you should read through a lot more of the old threads to gain some perspective."
OK, "Crucified" was a bit overstated, but you get my point, you are trying to make a bigger issue of what I posted as a term than it really is.
"The point is people are going to read your posts and assume it reflects how you feel on a topic. Duh. To complain that someone read your posts and questioned you about them without considering the fact that you might have other thoughts on the subject is weak. You've also posted repeatedly in this thread, not just one "brief" response, so you've had several opportunities to alter/expand on your earlier posts. Like I said, what you choose to post is what people will respond to - that's basically the way online message board dialogue happens.
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Where did you get the impression I'm complaining, you're the one having the issue over terminology and definitions not me.
"Where is this "actual definition" of which you speak? The urbandictionary.com one? Yeah, a site that allows any one to submit their own interpretation of words/phrases (one qualification listed there is that all cougars have to wear pink nail polish
); I hope you aren't using that as a source. As I mentioned, this topic was discussed before you joined the boards here. Maybe you should check out this ABC News link interviewing the woman who first brought the term to the public eye when her book on the "phenomenon" was published..."
Glad you brought that up, your ABC link and the one who coined the phrase says it's more than 8 years, not the 7+ you defined.
"Sex and relationships columnist Valerie Gibson would call them "cougars" — women who date men more than eight years their junior"
And don't get me started about this being a woman in the first place coming up with the term. You don't have much to stand on the credibility of this, when she herself is talking up her own book, where she stands to make good coin selling the rest of us on the idea. More credibility for you,
"Gibson, who is single but has been married five times — the last time to a man 15 years younger — describes cougars like herself this way: "She's in control. She's very attractive. And she's very sexy.""
Yes, I would say this one has been married more times than Dennis Rodman. I would also think even though the ABC article is 2+ webpages, that it doesn't lay it out like her book does either. Married 5 times, I'll say she's in total control, until the young guy wakes up and realizes that he's not only sleeping next to his mother, he's screwing her.
"Yeah, I am sure there are lots of guys who think it's "interesting" when Sean Connery is paired up with Catherine Zeta-Jones as a love interest in a movie."
I would say to you, that is a movie. But since you brought it up, how preposterous is it ? CZJ happens to be in that very position in her real life by choice. Michael Douglas born in 1944 she was born in 1969, she's 37, and he's 62, 25 years, I guess married since around 2000, she 31, he 56. Certainly you have a better example, one that might even support your theory. Good example though, I'm glad you threw that one out there into the thread . That way you can't throw that one in my face. Gibson even indicates an issue is not only ages when you meet the parents, but one of procreation. I recall she even indicated that the Cougar not discuss/reveal age at all. So what do they do, sit around the dinner table and look at the ceiling ?
"There's a difference between thinking it's interesting (or being envious of it) when it's older man-younger woman and questioning it in a different way when the gender roles are reversed."
Not really, there's no envy involved, go down to any Gentlemen's club for lack of another term during the daylight hours, observe for a little while, you may understand what I'm talking about, that I don't hold that regardless of which gender being at either end of the spectrum. You may start to think more, that the Urban dictionary has hit the definition right on the head regarding cougars, when you see that there are plenty of older men getting attention from 20 somethings. Amazing what some people will do for a buck. Anna Nicole Smith is yet another example, so how can you say I hold any double standard on this ?
You've been a lot of fun and a good sport about this. Anything else you wanna know ? BTW, what surfboard do you ride ? HIC here !
OK, "Crucified" was a bit overstated, but you get my point, you are trying to make a bigger issue of what I posted as a term than it really is.
"The point is people are going to read your posts and assume it reflects how you feel on a topic. Duh. To complain that someone read your posts and questioned you about them without considering the fact that you might have other thoughts on the subject is weak. You've also posted repeatedly in this thread, not just one "brief" response, so you've had several opportunities to alter/expand on your earlier posts. Like I said, what you choose to post is what people will respond to - that's basically the way online message board dialogue happens.
Where did you get the impression I'm complaining, you're the one having the issue over terminology and definitions not me.
"Where is this "actual definition" of which you speak? The urbandictionary.com one? Yeah, a site that allows any one to submit their own interpretation of words/phrases (one qualification listed there is that all cougars have to wear pink nail polish
Glad you brought that up, your ABC link and the one who coined the phrase says it's more than 8 years, not the 7+ you defined.
"Sex and relationships columnist Valerie Gibson would call them "cougars" — women who date men more than eight years their junior"
And don't get me started about this being a woman in the first place coming up with the term. You don't have much to stand on the credibility of this, when she herself is talking up her own book, where she stands to make good coin selling the rest of us on the idea. More credibility for you,
"Gibson, who is single but has been married five times — the last time to a man 15 years younger — describes cougars like herself this way: "She's in control. She's very attractive. And she's very sexy.""
Yes, I would say this one has been married more times than Dennis Rodman. I would also think even though the ABC article is 2+ webpages, that it doesn't lay it out like her book does either. Married 5 times, I'll say she's in total control, until the young guy wakes up and realizes that he's not only sleeping next to his mother, he's screwing her.
"Yeah, I am sure there are lots of guys who think it's "interesting" when Sean Connery is paired up with Catherine Zeta-Jones as a love interest in a movie."
I would say to you, that is a movie. But since you brought it up, how preposterous is it ? CZJ happens to be in that very position in her real life by choice. Michael Douglas born in 1944 she was born in 1969, she's 37, and he's 62, 25 years, I guess married since around 2000, she 31, he 56. Certainly you have a better example, one that might even support your theory. Good example though, I'm glad you threw that one out there into the thread . That way you can't throw that one in my face. Gibson even indicates an issue is not only ages when you meet the parents, but one of procreation. I recall she even indicated that the Cougar not discuss/reveal age at all. So what do they do, sit around the dinner table and look at the ceiling ?
"There's a difference between thinking it's interesting (or being envious of it) when it's older man-younger woman and questioning it in a different way when the gender roles are reversed."
Not really, there's no envy involved, go down to any Gentlemen's club for lack of another term during the daylight hours, observe for a little while, you may understand what I'm talking about, that I don't hold that regardless of which gender being at either end of the spectrum. You may start to think more, that the Urban dictionary has hit the definition right on the head regarding cougars, when you see that there are plenty of older men getting attention from 20 somethings. Amazing what some people will do for a buck. Anna Nicole Smith is yet another example, so how can you say I hold any double standard on this ?
You've been a lot of fun and a good sport about this. Anything else you wanna know ? BTW, what surfboard do you ride ? HIC here !